“How was I to know that healthy love includes generous amounts of positive feedback?”
In previous posts (Rehab for codependency (Part 1 and 2), and 2 main lies codependents tell themselves), I mention two types of boundaries: 1. stop the negative. 2. build the positive.
Many codependents apply boundary #1 (for years, even a lifetime) and neglect to create relationships that develop #2. That’s a dangerous practice which will lead to surviving without really thriving. And being clueless about what you’re missing.
Raise your eyes to the sky – get to know who you really are – and resolve to never settle.
Much love,
Happy D!
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I appreciate how deep-to-the-core this video-post’s “title” message (and your commentary about it) goes… Having seen the movie you recommend here, I can attest to it being a truly great example of “I see God in you” and seeing God in oneself. All of this (your vid-post & the movie) reminds me of the ancient Upanishads’ mahavakya (‘great expression’): “I am That, Thou art That, all This is nothing but That.” (i.e., where “That” refers to the Divine, Ultimate Reality, God)
We’re here to see with such eyes, people… as far as I can tell.
And we all start each day from where we are with it.
Thanks for inspiring more in us, Debbie.