Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

When Shame Begets Shame by Christine Louis de Canonville has become my favorite go-to resource and reference for those who are healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse (culturally and personally, but especially the latter, and even more so if you were shaped by a narcissistic parent or sibling). Chapters 1, 16 and 17 are very … More Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

I find narcissists so very compelling because, point blank: They have brought out the hero in me. And in many people I care about. Henry Boseley, in a great video essay, argues “Why Batman Is The Best Superhero” (https://youtu.be/b4lRkI2ScuA). I’m not sure if I agree with him about Batman, but I’ve always felt the Joker was … More Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too

(note: a co-narcissist is someone who has been targeted by a narcissist and is dealing with the effects of complex post traumatic stress disorder, CPTSD) I dislike labeling people. I dislike labels so much that I chose NOT to become a psychologist after achieving a Master’s Degree in family counseling. I thought humanity would be … More Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too

Definition of co-narcissist (Cinderella)

More and more people are waking up to the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse, personally, professionally and as a society. This is AWESOME. And… there is a learning curve involved. Since I’ll be writing more about co-narcissists for the purposes of healing and thriving, I want to offer you a clear definition. A couple of … More Definition of co-narcissist (Cinderella)

Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

After reading Christine Canonville’s book Shame Begets Shame, my eyes are now wide open to the harm of co-dependency literature for people who are healing from narcissistic abuse (which could have happened through parents, a sibling, or even bullying at school). The co-dependency literature isn’t just outdated, it’s misplaced and dangerous, like being given the … More Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

On one of the narcissistic abuse (n/a) channels, a speaker (not Simon) talked about a concern that n/a is leaving the realms of the professionals and has become a mainstream-healing topic which is frequently not getting the depth of psychological attention it deserves. He asked for comments and I would like to share my reply … More Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

What is Complex PTSD? CPTSD definition (healing from emotional abuse or toxic shame) (reference for therapists, coaches and clients) (CPTS-R)

Now that I’m moving the CPTSD conversation from “an aside” to a main topic in this here blog, I figured it’s time for a good ole definition.  Or Three. But first, a metaphor Race horses wear cheek pieces called blinders or blinkers that keep their vision focused forward and protect their eyes from dirt and mud. This is a … More What is Complex PTSD? CPTSD definition (healing from emotional abuse or toxic shame) (reference for therapists, coaches and clients) (CPTS-R)

Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

And learn what you can do about it, O YEAH! I used to teach a 5-week course on manifestation called Creation Mastermind. “It works!” were the most repeated words from the majority of my students. I still get calls about teaching it again. YES. It DOES work. I may go back to teaching this course … More Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)

I just counted. I have shared 76 blog posts here at Joy-Based Living, since October 23, 2018. That’s only 4 months. Mostly along the topics of narcissistic abuse and bringing out the best in yourself and others. WHEW!!! This brought me back to January 6, 2018, when I first started speaking publicly about narcissism. With … More Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)