Living with narcissistic abuse – resources for healing – response to a reader

If you or someone you care about is living with narcissistic abuse, the very best thing you can do is educate yourself. This video is a response to a reader who wrote: I have been living with a narcissistic person for 53 years . . . I just want to know how to live with … More Living with narcissistic abuse – resources for healing – response to a reader

Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

#1 Key Phrase for Self-Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

A lifetime ago, this “#1 Key Phrase” which you’ll hear in the video is something I created to help people to go for their dreams and stay inspired. I even turned the phrase into a button. It felt like a piece of art. I wore it all the time and taught this phrase to thousands of … More #1 Key Phrase for Self-Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Raised in a narcissistic household, I became very familiar with looks (and words) of disgust and contempt flung mercilessly at anyone and everyone. As a child, I couldn’t distinguish the fact that those messages were unwarranted and that they were not about me (or the others who received their blasts of contempt). And so, I … More Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Envy is something that’s taken me a while to really understand, and yesterday I got such pristine clarity about it. The breakthrough is so freeing to me that I couldn’t wait to share it with you. Healthy person When a healthy person sees someone else doing or being something they want to do or be … More Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

When Shame Begets Shame by Christine Louis de Canonville has become my favorite go-to resource and reference for those who are healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse (culturally and personally, but especially the latter, and even more so if you were shaped by a narcissistic parent or sibling). Chapters 1, 16 and 17 are very … More Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse

I’m thrilled to bring this conversation about spirituality to the table side by side with the topic of healing from narcissistic abuse. I think it has everything to do with awakening healthy power and even inspiring great leadership. The ONLY reason narcissistic abuse is a problem is because it’s a denial of who we truly … More Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

On labels, spirituality, narcissistic abuse and power (Mr. Rogers, Marianne Williamson)

Are you too spiritual for labels? I used to be. I mentioned this in a previous blog post (https://joybasedliving.com/2019/01/24/why-i-love-co-narcissists-and-why-you-should-too/) but today it came up in an f-bomb kind of story – with a lot of energy and clarity. So I thought you might like it! Story Today I spoke with a beautiful, deep and spiritual … More On labels, spirituality, narcissistic abuse and power (Mr. Rogers, Marianne Williamson)

Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?

I know what it’s like to feel powerless in the face of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel helpless in my ability to help someone who is a co-narcissist living under the tyranny of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel stuck in an old identity which a narcissist deliberately … More Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?