Why I love Oscar the Grouch – and is Sesame Street really a show about practicing Mindfulness?

I love love love Oscar the Grouch. Always have. Always will. I love that he is who he is. And I LOOOVE that he is accepted and loved in his curmudgeon-ness. To me, joy is most alive – and has the most spacious room to expand – in environments where all parts of ourselves are … More Why I love Oscar the Grouch – and is Sesame Street really a show about practicing Mindfulness?

In the aftermath of an episode – Healing from narcissistic abuse

In Part I of the Healing from Narcissistic Abuse series, I talked about the “Invisibility cloak” and the looks of “contempt and disdain” that the narky-nark flings at his or her target to keep them “in their place” and to keep the narky-nark feeling superior. Now, I’d like to name what happens inside the person … More In the aftermath of an episode – Healing from narcissistic abuse

Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.

Compassion. Love. Deep and true belief in someone. When your longstanding resilience becomes your achilles heel, when your altruism is unappreciated yet compulsively given, when you are chronically invalidated and devalued… How long does it take before you feel the pain? Better yet, how long does it take before you cut the ties? If you … More Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.