Are You Dealing with Joy-Ceilings, Emotional Flashbacks and Oh Shit Moments Every Single Day?
How are You Supposed to Stay Focused as You Grow Your Wings?
- Make conscious choices. Who do you most want to become? What do YOU want to feel? Honor your desires. Be receptive and open.
- Choose worthiness. This will make it easier to become the person you most want to be. There’s a little kid in you who simply wants to know she’s valued. Reassure her. Let her know that you need her MAGIC and that you’ll bring her with you always. Your inner gaze toward your self will be kind.
- Fall in love. Even though we’re designed for growth and change, the unknown usually feels scary. Our bodies can respond with fear, even if we’re the ones who instigated the change. LOVE IS BIGGER THAN FEAR. There’s a future YOU that you KNOW is possible. Bond with her by falling in love with her. Love will will keep you going during the times when you feel scared or complacent. “There is a bridge between you and anything. It is love.” – Hafiz. The energy in your HEART will flow.
- FEEL your future self loving you. Your future is calling you forward. That’s why you’re reading this!
- SAY YES. Over and over again. Say YES. This is your choice point. YES makes a great love story.
- Embody honor, the foundation for all great dreams and possibilities. Define honor as goodness. Write a list of honorable things you did in your life. This will strengthen the power center in your body. You will have more tenacity. You will stand tall and your GUT will be strong.
- Direct your attention, it’s your human superpower. Give your highest quality of attention to possibilities that bring you a sense of meaning and make your heart smile. Your HEAD will get clear.
- If you’re exploring possibilities… Get a timer. Journal ideas for 15 minutes a day.
- If you’ve chosen a path… Do a high priority activity for 15 minutes a day. Commit to 30 days in a row. Create winning streaks. Make your calendar your best friend.
- If you feel stuck… that’s normal.
- Learn about Master Distractors. You may be experiencing an Emotional Flashback, a Shame Storm, Cultural Shaming, a Jealousy Attack, an Upper Limit Problem or plain old RESISTANCE. Living authentically in a world that promotes conformity means that you have to keep getting back on track. Learn about the master distractors at JoyBasedLiving.com/UNSTUCK
- Check in with your body. Your gut shows you how much power you have available. Your heart shows you how much love is allowed to flow through. Your head shows you how clear you are about your vision. Intend that each of these areas be balanced, strong and beautiful.
- Ask God/ Your Source/ Higher Power for grace, faith and clarity. Give thanks in advance.
- Tune into your MAGIC and your WANT POWER. As you individuate (become whole), integrate the little kid in you who knows how MAGICAL life is.When a baby WANTS to walk, crawling faster doesn’t work. When they stand, they wobble. But they have Want Power. So they keep going till they walk! Little kids seek reassurance. If your little kid feels scared, comfort her. Tell her you’ll never abandon her. Listen to her. Integrate her magical qualities of play and joy.
- Can you focus forward now? If yes, go for it! Bond with it by feeling excited about it! If not, maybe there’s something else you need, like rest or play or food or extra support. Go get it!
- Come back to this page often. Fall in love with YOUR life. With all your challenges and all the mess! Be kind to yourself always. When you make a mistake, give yourself a HUGE HIGH FIVE! It’s evidence you’re in the game. Welcome home to YOU!
Individuation is a process of becoming the best, most authentic, version of YOU.
Play is when you Deeply Care about a game with No Attachment to the result.
Life is a child’s cosmic game! Dedicate yours to the Divine Child within who knows how to Play.
By Debbie Happy Cohen, M.A., Founder of Joy-Based Living
Copyright © 2023
Version Dec 29 2023
If you like the 9 Steps to Embodied Individuation, you’ll enjoy the Joy Ninja series
