Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse

I’m thrilled to bring this conversation about spirituality to the table side by side with the topic of healing from narcissistic abuse. I think it has everything to do with awakening healthy power and even inspiring great leadership. The ONLY reason narcissistic abuse is a problem is because it’s a denial of who we truly … More Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse

Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)

It’s taken more than a few attempts for me to make sense of Stockholm Syndrome, a twisted dynamic where a hostage bonds with his or her captor (due to skewed power dynamics and small tokens of kindness given to the hostage / child / abused person). It’s taken many more attempts to get to the … More Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand.¬†As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Quotes and colors are 2 of my favorite things

Quotes Inspirational quotes changed my life. They helped me live deliberately and intentionally. They validated my deepest beliefs about what was truly possible for myself and others. I began collecting great quotes at age 16, in a light blue 3-ring binder, on school-ruled paper. When I got older, quotes on sticky notes took over my … More Quotes and colors are 2 of my favorite things

The one lie co-narcissists are coerced to believe and how to stop being held hostage by it (Coach Notes)

One of the biggest challenges I face when coaching someone who’s continued to bump into the same roadblock is uncovering the false belief that is running their inner software. To do this, I always assume that there is a protector in them that’s gotten out of control and who is no longer serving the person. … More The one lie co-narcissists are coerced to believe and how to stop being held hostage by it (Coach Notes)

What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?

There’s a popular question asked among personal development leaders which I have tried to engage but it always stopped short for me. Although I really like the “edginess” of the question and the fact that it challenges a person into upgrading their life, its power always felt too harsh to me. The question is: “What … More What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?

A letter of honor, leadership, and recognition to the pioneers at JBL

Joy-Based Living is what it is today because of our members who have made the commitment and have taken the risk to pioneer this new way of being in the world. Each of our members is producing a powerful ripple that is impacting countless lives in a myriad of positive ways. Today, I wrote a … More A letter of honor, leadership, and recognition to the pioneers at JBL

Destroying Falsehoods – Evoking Brilliance – at the Heart of Personal Transformation

The most powerful experience in human transformation is when falsehood is faced and loved into truth. Falsehood about your limitations. Falsehood about your brilliance and beauty. Falsehood about what’s truly possible for you. Falsehood about your value and your power. Here’s a sound-meme for you that I recorded on a drive with a friend on … More Destroying Falsehoods – Evoking Brilliance – at the Heart of Personal Transformation