What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?

There’s a popular question asked among personal development leaders which I have tried to engage but it always stopped short for me. Although I really like the “edginess” of the question and the fact that it challenges a person into upgrading their life, its power always felt too harsh to me. The question is: “What … More What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?

Are You Worth Fighting For? How to Negotiate for Your Joy

In any negotiation, there are 3 levels of YES: The BS-YES where the person tells you yes, but you know and they know that they don’t really mean it. The HALF-BLOODED YES, where the person tells you yes, but they have reservations about really going ahead, and so they hold back, or procrastinate, or sabotage … More Are You Worth Fighting For? How to Negotiate for Your Joy

2 ways to hit more home runs – and strike out less – in your relationships and your life

I just got off a coaching call with a really great guy who I’ve known for many years. He was honest enough to admit the text blunder he made in response to his long-distance girlfriend who had texted him the evening prior, to let him know that she was thinking of him. His text reply … More 2 ways to hit more home runs – and strike out less – in your relationships and your life

Start Your Own Group

Why Joy-Based Living groups? We are people moving beyond “the pale”*. This is super hard to do on your own. You are unclogging all your pipelines, Cleaning up dead carcasses, Changing all your old, outdated stories. JBL groups provide a support network for this journey. ~ Julie Hoy, PhD The Joy-Based Living Beginner’s Guide covers all of the … More Start Your Own Group

Permission to coach.

If I have one more close friend tell me that they’d like to be a life coach, I’m going to scream. Seriously. YOU ARE ALREADY A LIFE COACH. THAT’S WHY I’M ON THE PHONE WITH YOU. BECAUSE YOU’RE A FREAKIN’ AMAZING LISTENER. YOU CAN HOLD SPACE FOR WHAT’S WANTING TO EMERGE IN ME. AND YOU … More Permission to coach.

Pioneers of JOY

“We are pioneering a fuller expression of the light that we are by letting go of our attachment to (and fear of) the dark.” Wisdom for the day: If you’re a traditionalist (think: Fiddler on the Roof, My Big Fat Greek Wedding), you have thousands of years of structures in place to tell you how you’re … More Pioneers of JOY

The Contrast Place – A weird, but normal, response to risk-taking

Have you ever taken an emotional risk – by setting a new boundary, making yourself more visible in the world, trying out a new form of creativity, etc… – and then felt immediately WORSE afterwards, rather than better, even if the actual event went the way you wanted it to? As a committed life-adventurer, I … More The Contrast Place – A weird, but normal, response to risk-taking