There’s a popular question asked among personal development leaders which I have tried to engage but it always stopped short for me. Although I really like the “edginess” of the question and the fact that it challenges a person into upgrading their life, its power always felt too harsh to me. The question is: “What … More What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?
In any negotiation, there are 3 levels of YES: The BS-YES where the person tells you yes, but you know and they know that they don’t really mean it. The HALF-BLOODED YES, where the person tells you yes, but they have reservations about really going ahead, and so they hold back, or procrastinate, or sabotage … More Are You Worth Fighting For? How to Negotiate for Your Joy
I just got off a coaching call with a really great guy who I’ve known for many years. He was honest enough to admit the text blunder he made in response to his long-distance girlfriend who had texted him the evening prior, to let him know that she was thinking of him. His text reply … More 2 ways to hit more home runs – and strike out less – in your relationships and your life
Why Joy-Based Living groups? We are people moving beyond “the pale”*. This is super hard to do on your own. You are unclogging all your pipelines, Cleaning up dead carcasses, Changing all your old, outdated stories. JBL groups provide a support network for this journey. ~ Julie Hoy, PhD The Joy-Based Living Beginner’s Guide covers all of the … More Start Your Own Group
As 2016 comes to a close, I found myself flipping through one of my journals, and fortuitously came across a “Why Statement” that I wrote in spring of 2015. I wrote it to help direct my thoughts and actions in a way that would be inspired and inner driven. Here it is: A world where … More The Power of a Strong WHY
A very dear student sent this to me after some intensive coaching. It is with her permission and blessing that I am sharing it with you. May it shed light on the dark places of your journey and grant you greater freedom in your soul. Love, Debbie My mom gave me the rain. My dad gave me … More My mom gave me the rain…
The voice of not-enough beats at my door. Begging begging begging me to do more. Go there, see that, get there, be that! Come on, girl, you don’t have much time, Go Go Go!!
If I have one more close friend tell me that they’d like to be a life coach, I’m going to scream. Seriously. YOU ARE ALREADY A LIFE COACH. THAT’S WHY I’M ON THE PHONE WITH YOU. BECAUSE YOU’RE A FREAKIN’ AMAZING LISTENER. YOU CAN HOLD SPACE FOR WHAT’S WANTING TO EMERGE IN ME. AND YOU … More Permission to coach.
“We are pioneering a fuller expression of the light that we are by letting go of our attachment to (and fear of) the dark.” Wisdom for the day: If you’re a traditionalist (think: Fiddler on the Roof, My Big Fat Greek Wedding), you have thousands of years of structures in place to tell you how you’re … More Pioneers of JOY
Have you ever taken an emotional risk – by setting a new boundary, making yourself more visible in the world, trying out a new form of creativity, etc… – and then felt immediately WORSE afterwards, rather than better, even if the actual event went the way you wanted it to? As a committed life-adventurer, I … More The Contrast Place – A weird, but normal, response to risk-taking