Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

And learn what you can do about it, O YEAH! I used to teach a 5-week course on manifestation called Creation Mastermind. “It works!” were the most repeated words from the majority of my students. I still get calls about teaching it again. YES. It DOES work. I may go back to teaching this course … More Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

#1 Key Phrase for Self-Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

A lifetime ago, this “#1 Key Phrase” which you’ll hear in the video is something I created to help people to go for their dreams and stay inspired. I even turned the phrase into a button. It felt like a piece of art. I wore it all the time and taught this phrase to thousands of … More #1 Key Phrase for Self-Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)

I just counted. I have shared 76 blog posts here at Joy-Based Living, since October 23, 2018. That’s only 4 months. Mostly along the topics of narcissistic abuse and bringing out the best in yourself and others. WHEW!!! This brought me back to January 6, 2018, when I first started speaking publicly about narcissism. With … More Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)

Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Envy is something that’s taken me a while to really understand, and yesterday I got such pristine clarity about it. The breakthrough is so freeing to me that I couldn’t wait to share it with you. Healthy person When a healthy person sees someone else doing or being something they want to do or be … More Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

How to Spot a Narcissist – and Your #1 Blind Spot

This topic seems to be hot hot hot right now, and everyone seems to want to know more, so in this video, I’ll offer my personal experience. At the end of the video, I offer a coaching assignment. Should you choose to take me up on it, I’d love to hear from you in the … More How to Spot a Narcissist – and Your #1 Blind Spot

Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

One of our members shared this in our JBL Authentic Connections conversation at Basecamp (see treasure map) and it was so juicy good that a bunch of others in the group commented that they would be saving it and referring back to it. She references other books and people, but I credit her with choosing … More Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

When Shame Begets Shame by Christine Louis de Canonville has become my favorite go-to resource and reference for those who are healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse (culturally and personally, but especially the latter, and even more so if you were shaped by a narcissistic parent or sibling). Chapters 1, 16 and 17 are very … More Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)

It’s taken more than a few attempts for me to make sense of Stockholm Syndrome, a twisted dynamic where a hostage bonds with his or her captor (due to skewed power dynamics and small tokens of kindness given to the hostage / child / abused person). It’s taken many more attempts to get to the … More Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)