Stop Damming It. Tears can magically transmute trauma. 11 reasons we hold them back. (Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

The more I learn about tears (especially those of compassion for others and/ or self-compassion), the more magical they feel to me. But when I stop and think about it, it’s actually quite logical. We are feeling-beings. And when feelings get stuck, we humans tend to either explode or atrophy – simply because the feelings … More Stop Damming It. Tears can magically transmute trauma. 11 reasons we hold them back. (Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

Connection (Part 2)

A few days ago I shared a post about Connection and it’s been very well received, especially by those in our JBL community, which signals me that the message is aligned with our core values (yay!). This brings me so much joy! Yesterday, probably drawing from that inspiration, this lovely poster came through. (click image … More Connection (Part 2)

Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

(PG-13) Upgrade Your Story with Compassion and Toughness, a Winning Power-Combo

Kid-gloves and toughness. Compassion and boot-camp. Kindness and firmness. Caring and truthful. These combos may seem paradoxically juxtaposed – but they’re they’re super powerful when it comes to facing and overcoming your biggest fears. Or not settling. Or setting boundaries. Or reaching for your dreams. Commitment and loyalty. To you. Is at the heart of this combo. … More (PG-13) Upgrade Your Story with Compassion and Toughness, a Winning Power-Combo

You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion

You know how sometimes you find yourself repeating the same darn pattern of “the same mistake” and you just can’t see what’s driving the whole thing? Repetition compulsion can be devastating. But also very funny! We repeat what we know. We repeat decisions that we made a long long time ago when our discernment abilities … More You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion