Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Raised in a narcissistic household, I became very familiar with looks (and words) of disgust and contempt flung mercilessly at anyone and everyone. As a child, I couldn’t distinguish the fact that those messages were unwarranted and that they were not about me (or the others who received their blasts of contempt). And so, I … More Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Rat-Proof Your Life (Coming Out of Hiding – Notes on a Wood Board)

I write. A lot. I started journaling when I was 15 and never stopped. One of my greatest fears (which showed up in a dream just prior to a 10-day silent meditation retreat) is NOT being able to write. In the dream, I wrote with pencil on the bottom of my foot. (No, it didn’t … More Rat-Proof Your Life (Coming Out of Hiding – Notes on a Wood Board)

Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

One of our members shared this in our JBL Authentic Connections conversation at Basecamp (see treasure map) and it was so juicy good that a bunch of others in the group commented that they would be saving it and referring back to it. She references other books and people, but I credit her with choosing … More Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

It’s so much easier to learn about psychological abuse when you can actually see it in action.  Check out this brilliant, poignant commentary in response to this 5-minute interview excerpt with Steve Harvey and Monique. What excites me most is that it offers a play-by-play account of the abusive nature of narcissism. It shows: in … More Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

The one lie the nark needs you to buy (hint – Scar from Lion King) (Coach Notes)

One of the biggest challenges I face when coaching someone who continues to bump into the same roadblock is uncovering the false belief that is running their inner software. To do this, I always assume that there is a protector in them that’s gotten out of control and who is no longer serving the person. … More The one lie the nark needs you to buy (hint – Scar from Lion King) (Coach Notes)