Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)
Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)
One of the biggest challenges I face when coaching someone who’s continued to bump into the same roadblock is uncovering the false belief that is running their inner software. To do this, I always assume that there is a protector in them that’s gotten out of control and who is no longer serving the person. … More The one lie co-narcissists are coerced to believe and how to stop being held hostage by it (Coach Notes)
I know what it’s like to feel powerless in the face of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel helpless in my ability to help someone who is a co-narcissist living under the tyranny of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel stuck in an old identity which a narcissist deliberately … More Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?
I have a friend who is navigating 2 abusive, significant relationships. She is living with a psychologically abusive parent, and one of her adult children is displaying narcissistic verbally abusive behaviors. She has been on a healing path for a couple of years and has learned a lot about setting boundaries and healing toxic shame. … More 4 resources for empowering your sanity and selfhood during and after a narcissistic relationship and 1 resource for treating spirit possession
I find narcissists so very compelling because, point blank: They have brought out the hero in me. And in many people I care about. Henry Boseley, in a great video essay, argues “Why Batman Is The Best Superhero” (https://youtu.be/b4lRkI2ScuA). I’m not sure if I agree with him about Batman, but I’ve always felt the Joker was … More Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)
In the last few days, I shared 3 important posts with you: Definition of co-narcissist Why I love co-narcissists Narcissistic abuse article collection. My intention is to share leading edge information for how to end and heal the repetition of narcissistic abuse, an all-too-common relational tragedy in our world today. I will continue to … More Thriving after narcissistic abuse, 3 stages of healing to help you write your own ending
I dislike labeling people. I dislike labels so much that I chose NOT to become a psychologist after achieving a Master’s Degree in family counseling. I thought humanity would be much better off with a bible of humanity’s psychological and spiritual strengths rather than a bible of mental disorders and illnesses (DSM). I became a … More Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too
More and more people are waking up to the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse, personally, professionally and as a society. This is AWESOME. And… there is a learning curve involved. Since I’ll be writing more about co-narcissists for the purposes of healing and thriving, I want to offer you a clear definition. A couple of … More Definition of co-narcissist (Cinderella)
I wanted this collection of blog posts about co-narcissism and healing from narcissistic abuse to be easily available in one place. I will always honor the co-narcissist’s superpowers of resilience and self-reliance, compassion and kindness. My prayer is that you keep them in balance so you can enjoy your life on your terms!