3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

The one lie co-narcissists are coerced to believe and how to stop being held hostage by it (Coach Notes)

One of the biggest challenges I face when coaching someone who’s continued to bump into the same roadblock is uncovering the false belief that is running their inner software. To do this, I always assume that there is a protector in them that’s gotten out of control and who is no longer serving the person. … More The one lie co-narcissists are coerced to believe and how to stop being held hostage by it (Coach Notes)

4 resources for empowering your sanity and selfhood during and after a narcissistic relationship and 1 resource for treating spirit possession

I have a friend who is navigating 2 abusive, significant relationships. She is living with a psychologically abusive parent, and one of her adult children is displaying narcissistic verbally abusive behaviors. She has been on a healing path for a couple of years and has learned a lot about setting boundaries and healing toxic shame. … More 4 resources for empowering your sanity and selfhood during and after a narcissistic relationship and 1 resource for treating spirit possession

Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

I find narcissists so very compelling because, point blank: They have brought out the hero in me. And in many people I care about. Henry Boseley, in a great video essay, argues “Why Batman Is The Best Superhero” (https://youtu.be/b4lRkI2ScuA). I’m not sure if I agree with him about Batman, but I’ve always felt the Joker was … More Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

Thriving after narcissistic abuse, 3 stages of healing to help you write your own ending

In the last few days, I shared 3 important posts with you: Definition of co-narcissist Why I love co-narcissists Narcissistic abuse article collection.    My intention is to share leading edge information for how to end and heal the repetition of narcissistic abuse, an all-too-common relational tragedy in our world today. I will continue to … More Thriving after narcissistic abuse, 3 stages of healing to help you write your own ending

Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too

I dislike labeling people. I dislike labels so much that I chose NOT to become a psychologist after achieving a Master’s Degree in family counseling. I thought humanity would be much better off with a bible of humanity’s psychological and spiritual strengths rather than a bible of mental disorders and illnesses (DSM). I became a … More Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too