If you’re codependent – if compulsive overgiving is a problem in your life, and you’re out of balance as a result, try on these 3 practices and watch yourself grow into the true you which is radiant, brilliant and simply AWESOME.
- self-acceptance – hold yourself with deep regard, regardless of what you’re feeling or needing or experiencing or wanting
2. let others accept you and hold you in regard, regardless of what you’re feeling or needing or experiencing or wanting. If you have CPTSD, this will require inner work on your part. You’ll have to grieve and also let go of deep seated anger – so you can let in the love that is available to you RIGHT NOW.
3. celebrate others who you believe in and who would love to celebrate you in return. This will require you to let others see the “true you”… not the false self that you portray to the world which stands for everyone else but which shrinks when it comes time to spotlight YOU.
REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT
The secret key to hacking the kind of codependency where overgiving is a compulsive problem is this: surround yourself with people who care about you as much as you care about them.
You are a brilliant beam of light, a snowflake and a unicorn. We need MORE true YOUS in this WORLD! Including YOU!
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Reverend SASSY SHORTS!
Debbie Happy Cohen, author and coach, is the founder of Joy-Based Living. Her Master’s Degree is in counseling, specializing in family systems, healing emotional trauma, and practical spirituality. Also affectionately known as Happy D! and Reverend SASSY SHORTS!, she lives on Lookout Mountain in Alabama, near Chattanooga, Tennessee. Her books include Reach Your Stars!, SANCTUARY, It’s All About Kids: Every Child Deserves a Teacher of the Year, and I Don’t Think So! Her social media playgrounds as well as the SANCTUARY ebook can be found right here.