Dear Friend, Michele and I would like to help you experience more MAGIC in your life. In order to do this, we’d like to include you in the insights and perspectives which have helped us the most. This episode is an invitation for those of you who don’t yet know us at Joy-Based Living, … More Meaningful conversations are the gateway to creating your best new normal – JBL is leading the way – Episode 26
Paulina never mentions “narcissistic abuse” directly in this video (below), but it sounds like she’s been through some good therapy and I’m hoping she knows that what she is dealing with is Complex Post Traumatic Stress. The signs are there: Her bewilderment and confusion. CHECK. Her feelings of abandonment and betrayal. CHECK. Her confession that … More ex-Wife of narcissist – all the signs are there – Paulina Porizkova – CPTSR CPTSD severe codependency
If you’re dealing with COMPLEX Post Traumatic Stress I want you to know you’re not alone. Quick recap of acronyms: COMPLEX PTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) refers to a person who is overwhelmed by emotional sensations, as compared to the visual memories that overwhelm people with “regular” PTSD. Judith Herman coined CPTSD in 1995, … More Transmute powerlessness into healthy power, joy and love when recovering from CPTSR CPTSD and codependency
Sometimes I feel like my middle name shouldn’t be “Happy”, it should be “Taboo” as I seem to gravitate toward topics that are generally unwanted, unaccepted and judged as bad. Powerlessness is one of those dear friends. The Joy-Based Living community is like Gold’s gym for radical self-awareness. It’s designed for the most enthusiastic self-awareness … More The beauty of powerlessness
Thanks to ALL of you who read and shared my recent post (7 Things Spiritual Teachers or Friends Should Never Say to Someone with CPTSR CPTSD or Severe Codependency) which went mini-viral which means people were really touched by it. One woman shared it on her Facebook wall along with the note: Please! Memorize this … More 13 Steps for Self-Championing Yourself After Emotional Trauma, CPTSR, CPTSD or Severe Codependency
Someone with COMPLEX Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) or Response (CPTSR) is someone who has pretty much “given up” their core identity, in lieu of serving others. This is NOT a natural state of being. This is a TRAINED state of being in which his or her ego-boundaries have been broken down or significantly cracked. … More 7 things spiritual teachers or friends should NEVER say to someone with CPTSR/ CPTSD or severe codependency
My greatest passion and desire is to see more kind-hearted, good-natured people get stronger and louder and take up more space in the world. Usually, this “type of person” tends to be on the quieter side. Sometimes this is due to their true nature. But more of the time, I think the hold-back has to … More Leap from Trauma to Peak Performance. How my friend’s vertigo disappeared. Resilience vs Relentless.
Do you feel stuck to someone (friend, lover, boss, family) who’s bad for you? The word DISGUST has gotten my attention recently. It’s a core human sensation that can provide HUGE breakthroughs in the areas of emotional trauma, abuse and toxic shame. But hardly anyone talks about it. I’ll have to provide context to get … More How to stop believing in assholes and start protecting yourself from disgusting behavior (with short asides on envy and OCD)