I posted this message in a Gabor Mate Facebook fan group just now and I’m going to post it here without editing it. Much love, Debbie
I can’t stop thinking about these words since they showed up here on the Gabor mate video promoting his upcoming gathering.
Y’all are my nerd people who love this kind of stuff. so I’m gonna keep going.
Holy F-Balls!!! OMG!!!
Ok, so when I read Mario Martinez’s book MindBody Code in 2014 (Gabor endorsed it)… Mario talked about the need for Subcultures of Wellness.
He also talked about 3 archetypal wounds and 3healing fields. And Embodiment. This simplified all of personal development for me. I still needed to learn about ADHD and healing from gaslighting but ok. This gave me ground.
So in 2016, I took Mario’s teachings which are highly intellectual and academic and simplified them so I could actually practice them (like workout repetitions) and teach them (so others could join in).
So my friends and I have been doing these “reps” for a few years and one person calls our group Heaven on Earth.
So I’m n January this year I read Myth of Normal and at the end of the book Gabor Maté confesses … well now I’ve spelled out all of the problems and here’s the part where I’m supposed to tell you the solution.
And then he says: I don’t have one.
And I’m like:
THANK YOU GABOR FOR ADMITTING IT!!!
YOU ARE VALUDATING ME FOR HOW F’ING HARD ITS BEEN FOR ME TO FIND A SOLUTION!!!!
AND HOLY FBALLS!!!! IVE CREATED A SOLUTION!!!!
Which can be learned online.
Which can be practiced easily.
Which can be reinforced by other members.
A space where mirroring and feedback happen naturally.
A place where ATTUNEMENT AND ATTACHMENT can be known and felt so that healing can happen on a core level.
Shit, I don’t know how to end this without it sounding like a pitch. That’s not my intention. I just don’t know what else to do. So I’m going to keep going and share what it is and put the link in the comments.
Please don’t kick me out for this. I really love this group and I’ll take this message down if I need to. Authenticity AND connection. This is the principle I’m standing on right now.
So then yesterday I realized HOLY SHIT!!! The 12 Practices I wrote that we’ve been practicing ARE SOCIAL CONSTRUCTS.
And the group keeps coming together for years now… because it’s working! Proof of concept. In fact, at our VERY FIRST graduation for people who completed the 12 practices (which took place 2 weeks ago!) the students presented me with an honorary doctorate for creating the 12 Practices.
I’m in tears right now.
I have a great wellspring that is available and so many people are thirsty and I don’t know how to tell people how great it is without sounding like a lunatic!!!!
If you’re thirsty, please check it out.
They should be available for everyone on the planet!!!
JBL 12 PRACTICES