Someone with COMPLEX Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) or Response (CPTSR) is someone who has pretty much “given up” their core identity, in lieu of serving others. This is NOT a natural state of being. This is a TRAINED state of being in which his or her ego-boundaries have been broken down or significantly cracked. … More 7 things spiritual teachers or friends should NEVER say to someone with CPTSR/ CPTSD or severe codependency
My greatest passion and desire is to see more kind-hearted, good-natured people get stronger and louder and take up more space in the world. Usually, this “type of person” tends to be on the quieter side. Sometimes this is due to their true nature. But more of the time, I think the hold-back has to … More Leap from Trauma to Peak Performance. How my friend’s vertigo disappeared. Resilience vs Relentless.
Trauma. Spirituality. Peak Performance. These are my areas of expertise, and they are all strangely and magically intertwined. The more I learn about one, the more the other 2 make sense. The more I help someone strengthen one, the stronger the other 2 become in their lives. Imagine an Olympic hopeful. She has a mental … More Fuck Normal. Spirituality, trauma and peak performance.
I grew up in Miami, a city where swimming is a regular past-time and where surviving undercurrents in the Atlantic Ocean is a regular part of swimming lessons. When overwhelming emotions take over, they can feel like an undercurrent, a riptide. That’s what trauma is – overwhelming sensations that make you feel paralyzed. If you … More Embracing Trauma: From surviving to surfing. Ride the tide, there is ecstasy on the other side!
Do you feel stuck to someone (friend, lover, boss, family) who’s bad for you? The word DISGUST has gotten my attention recently. It’s a core human sensation that can provide HUGE breakthroughs in the areas of emotional trauma, abuse and toxic shame. But hardly anyone talks about it. I’ll have to provide context to get … More How to stop believing in assholes and start protecting yourself from disgusting behavior (with short asides on envy and OCD)
Hey! Should Healing Fairy Tales be called Hairy Tales? If this video resonates with you, I want you to know you are not alone. There are so many blooming misfits in the world these days, and it’s your turn now. Watch a video introduction to creating your own BLOOMING MISFITS conversation here: https://joybasedliving.com/bloomingmisfits/ Get your copy … More Black Crayon Boy – a Healing Fairy Tale for Blooming Misfits #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
Do haters influence how you feel about yourself, about others or even about life itself? Do haters slow you down, suffocate your energy or stop you from doing what you love? Don’t give them that power. Fortify yourself. Use the experience as an opportunity to amplify your SUPERPOWER: Your bold, brash unconditional ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance of them … More Do haters slow you down or affect your mood? Use your superpower to WIN – with LOVE. #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
When you regularly feel confused, overwhelmed, disconnected-from-self, or a bit too crazy after spending time with the same person – consider the idea that it’s not you – maybe, just maybe – it’s them. (Search terms: cognitive dissonance and double-binds). Maybe said person is doing it on purpose, maybe she’s not. Maybe he’s got mental … More Affirmations for dealing with people who overwhelm you #cptsr #cptsd #codependency