ONGOING SELF-COMPASSION is a powerful catalyst for trans-MUTING the voice of a tyrannical inner critic who was born out of internalized TOXIC SHAME. I didn’t mention it in the video because it was already loaded with so much juicy-juice, but I wanted to invite you to use self-compassion as an inner backdrop while watching the … More When championing yourself triggers trauma #triumph #TEATIME #codependency #CPTSD #CPTSR – every #Coach #Therapist #Healer should know this
The more I learn about tears (especially those of compassion for others and/ or self-compassion), the more magical they feel to me. But when I stop and think about it, it’s actually quite logical. We are feeling-beings. And when feelings get stuck, we humans tend to either explode or atrophy – simply because the feelings … More Stop Damming It. Can tears magically transmute trauma? 11 reasons we hold them back. (Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)
At home, at work, as you’re going about your day… How well do you tend to notice and spotlight your gorgeous attention toward what’s right? This simple skill is loaded with Joy-Power. LOADED, I tell you! I challenge you to practice this skill… I dare you to make it a lifestyle. The little things ARE … More Spotlight What’s Right: JOY-POWER
(click to enlarge) Every single day, it seems, I receive a very personal message from someone who is working through and breaking through some really deep stuff. While this thrills me to no end, I know there are so many others who are facing the same experiences, and this is inspiring me to launch a … More TEA TIME coming soon!
Soon after posting the last post (advice for walking through Pete Walker’s Books – CPTSD and Tao of Fully Feeling), a client sent this collage to me. KUDOS to her! I’m sharing it with permission. May you feel inspired. May you be set free. #artasmeditation #artastransformation #artheals Click to enlarge. Title: note to broken record superego … More Note to broken record superego introject inner critic (cptsd/ cptsr/ healing) Secret Garden Police Academy Forrest Gump
I don’t normally post other people’s videos here at the JBL blog, but this 5 minutes with Dr. Gabor Maté is awesome and it’s what we’re standing for at JBL … We are wired for connection, especially in these 4 core areas: WE are so worth our very own time, energy, attention and effort. Let’s … More 4 disconnections worth healing – Gabor Mate wisdom
This letter started out as an essay from the perspective of someone who suffers with severe codependency issues. Someone who’s been targeted by a narcissist (aka co-narcissist) typically suffers with severe codependency issues. I want to acknowledge that up front so that you can easily recognize such a person – and thereby increase your ability to … More Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)
A Course in Miracles says that our job is not to teach love (which is impossible) but to remove the blocks to our awareness of its constant, ever-radiant presence. I wonder, if maybe, that’s the task of our inner mother, our inner parent. To create a space, an environment, where love is free to BE. … More Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love
At the heart of codependency is a belief that YOU are somehow responsible for someone else’s happiness EVEN WHEN they are old enough to take responsibility for their own – but they don’t. They prefer to put it on you. If you have taken it on – (maybe you were too young to say no, … More Say Goodbye to Beasts of Burden – Yippee-Ki-yay! (codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)
Linda Kohanov’s timeless yet pioneering insights about horses, people, equine therapy and leadership, are simply outstanding. I am constantly amazed and delighted by the little pieces of trivia about horses that can be applied to our daily lives. Here’s a little taste. Much love, HappyD!