(Please scroll down to see the collection of articles)
I’ve discovered something important after 2 years of leading people through the Joy-Based Living practices.
Although our JBL community is for anyone who is sincerely seeking more joy in their lives, there is one type of person who uniquely benefits from the coaching and support system that our community provides: someone who is healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse.
Now that I think about it, this makes perfect sense.
At the heart of narcissistic abuse is invalidation of the self and of a person’s reality.
So, when a person’s self-hood is seen, honored, accepted, appreciated and even celebrated (as we practice in our JBL community), and when that person’s reality and experience is VALIDATED… that person finally has an opportunity to thrive. Their joy has the potential to come fully alive.
Many people who are healing from narcissistic abuse feel alone, isolated, depressed, and even a little crazy. It’s precisely how they were manipulated to feel.
But, to be clear, they weren’t manipulated because they are weak. Quite the contrary: they were targeted by the narcissist because they are strong. What the narcissist is looking for is someone who will take care of them, at the expense of their own needs. They are looking for someone who is empathic, compassionate, giving and caring. To a fault.
The person who is abused is called a co-narcissist. Imagine in your mind being someone’s co-pilot. You’re not so afraid of being alone. But you are afraid of going “against” the narcissist’s perceptions and wishes. And you have every reason to feel afraid. Your personhood has been threatened (as well as other important areas of your life… physical, emotional, financial, children, etc.).
A narcissistic relationship is like a toxic dance that feels hypnotic. If it’s not healed, the chances of attracting other narcissists to your life are extremely high.
If this describes you, and you are interested in healing and thriving, we have 2 paths that you can take depending on your readiness level and what you can afford at this time.
- Step by step. Here you’ll begin with self-study. Buy the 12 Practices E-book (read it; watch the videos, which are included; do the journal). Then share your Practices with others in our community. Then take the Wholehearted Mastermind course. Then join our Authentic Connections conversation. Each of these steps is meaningful and important. It will be up to you to stay motivated to take each step.
- Immersion: 6-month one-on-one coaching intensive. You’ll receive 12 coaching sessions plus you’ll be personally guided through the 12 Practices e-book, the community conversation, the Wholehearted Mastermind course and the Authentic Connections conversation. To get started, you’ll want to purchase one session. During that time, we will assess your current situation and your current needs. We will create a plan of action for you with a few short term action steps. We will also use this time to see if we would be a good fit for each other to work together for 6 months.
At Joy-Based Living, we learn to regulate our emotions with extreme self-care and embodiment of honor, commitment and loyalty toward ourselves and others. We also practice celebrating our imperfections as we step forward. We value our most authentic desires, and this includes taking the risks to make our dreams come true in the world. We learn to give and receive support as we increase our well-being and joy.
Here is our collection of articles about healing from, and thriving after, narcissistic abuse (newest first):
- Fuck Normal. Spirituality, trauma and peak performance.
- How to stop believing in assholes and start protecting yourself from disgusting behavior (with short asides on envy and OCD)
- Black Crayon Boy – a Healing Fairy Tale for Blooming Misfits #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
- Affirmations for dealing with people who overwhelm you #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
- The freedom ride from Hell NO to Hell YES!! 4 stages. #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency
- There is great love for you – Abraham Hicks message and healing Post Traumatic Stress
- Are emotional flashbacks f-ing with your ability to focus? 3-color perspective. #CPTSR #CPTSD
- Existence, Non-existence, Abandonment, Self-Worth #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency #spirituality
- Vaporize Emotional Waste and Turn it into Pure, Positive Energy
- SANCTUARY Trailer 1
- Children’s Books for Healing Emotional Trauma
- Alan Watts and Pink Floyd
- Generosity is at the ❤️ of Joy
- Trauma Addiction Recovery – clearest message. Gabor Mate. Peter Levine. You.
- But the argument was over such a little thing #CPTSR #CPTSD #Codependency
- Sneak Peek! SANCTUARY Coming Soon
- Trauma as disconnection from self, Gabor Mate
- Quick announcement and a prayer
- self love feel your best montage #silent #gabormate
- Are you terrible at saying no? Or terrified? COG Part 3
- COGS Part 2 – Compulsive Over-Givers are Slaves – Join the Revolution!
- Mental Fitness – ONE word – Happy Birthday USA!!!
- Where common-sense wisdom breaks down for people with cptsr, cptsd and codependency #SimonSinek
- Testimonial for Her Right Foot – Statue of Liberty – Freedom for Joy
- CPTSR is emotional slavery – Trevor Noah – Richard Grannon – Thank you
- 58 seconds of peace for days when it feels like you’ve given too much
- Living with narcissistic abuse – resources for healing – response to a reader
- Reciprocity, Emotional Abandonment, and Healing CPTSR CPTSD codependency #emotionalrainbow #print
- 90 seconds – heal cptsr, cptsd, codependency – trade flags for waves
- Celebrate your courage (healing cptsr, CPTSD, codependency)
- Shame vs toxic shame (healing cptsr, CPTSD, codependency)
- 3 levels of relationship stuckness – and how to get unstuck
- 3 levels of stuck – get traction for taking inspired action – #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
- Prayer, possibility and the power of love #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency
- Toxic Passivity? I don’t think so! – Response to Richard Grannon #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency
- What are your core values? (Heal CPTSR, CPTSD, codependency)
- Love letter to co-narcissists #healing #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency
- Path out of hell – CPTSR CPTSD Codependency – 12 Practices – Progress Not Perfection
- I See God in You – Movie Therapy #RabNeBanaDiJodi #CPTSD #CPTSR #codependency
- Eliminate toxic guilt and shame #notyourburden #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
- (F-Bomb) How to find healthy relationships #CPTSR #CPTSD #Codependency
- A prayer for surrendering feelings of powerlessness, let them be replaced with love
- George Carlin on PTSD – 2 min funny man rant
- The harm of indifference and the healing power of love #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
- Emotional neglect and abandonment #healing #PeteWalker #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency
- Audio of Hey, your neediness is showing! (Worst thing imaginable to say to someone with codependency issues)
- Heal CPTSR with Mindfulness – special considerations #David Hawkins #CPTSD #codependency #teatime
- CPTSR welcome video
- Visibility and Codependency – A Course in Miracles and Tradition 12 #healing #grace #CPTSD #CPTSR
- Rehab for Codependency Part 2 – power moves #cptsd #cptsr #teatime #chocolate