Invisibility Exacerbates Trauma – Let Yourself Be Seen

A few months ago, I purchased InvisiblesAnonymous.com after beginning to understand the prevalence of loneliness, trauma, and the healing power of truly being seen. Yesterday, I felt inspired to write this short essay and it was so juicy good that I wanted it to have its own unique URL: https://joybasedliving.com/invisiblesanonymous/. Fortunately, I am not invisible … More Invisibility Exacerbates Trauma – Let Yourself Be Seen

Overcome the 2 greatest post-emotional-trauma fears, and learn the purpose of double binds

Ladies and Gents, I’m on a flippin’ Roll and you all are going to benefit, big time. I’m working on a project for you that I know you will love. In the meanwhile, enjoy this video message and set yourself FREE!! First 3 people who comment either here or at youbute will receive a special … More Overcome the 2 greatest post-emotional-trauma fears, and learn the purpose of double binds

3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)

You deserve to swim fast, fly free, run like Secretariat and enjoy your treasure every single day of your life! So many metaphors, so little time!¬† PENGUINS AND SEAGULLS When I first started the Joy-Based Living conversation and community, I saw us cleaning ourselves and each other of cultural wounds (shame, abandonment, betrayal) the way … More 3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)

Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

When someone you love is repeatedly hurtful, facing reality can be hard. For this reason, whether it’s your own bubble of denial or someone else’s, popping such bubbles isn’t usually fun and (more often than not) requires repetition. Resistance is often due to Stockholm Syndrome (also known as trauma bonding or toxic loyalty). But the … More Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

The magic of MILESTONES… YEAH. I posted this (below) for the inner circle of peeps at JBL (called Authentic Connections which you can see on our Treasure Map) because when I Kickstarted JBL in 2016, I NEVER in a million years intended or predicted that we’d be having a deep and ongoing transformative conversation about … More From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

Definition of co-narcissist (Cinderella)

More and more people are waking up to the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse, personally, professionally and as a society. This is AWESOME. And… there is a learning curve involved. Since I’ll be writing more about co-narcissists for the purposes of healing and thriving, I want to offer you a clear and thorough definition and … More Definition of co-narcissist (Cinderella)

Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse

Last night, a friend of mine who was feeling GREAT just a few days ago emailed to let me know she was feeling DOWN in the dumps. It was very late, so I asked her if she’d like me to send her some poems/vignettes I’d written recently. She welcomed the idea and afterwards she let … More Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse

2 key resources for successfully healing from narcissistic abuse (present or past)

Healing from ¬†narcissistic abuse can be like walking through a rocky terrain in a dense fog. You may have a sense about where you’re going but it’s slow-going and it’s so darn easy to make mistakes along the way. Finding a sherpa is tricky because this is a leading-edge topic and most therapists don’t have … More 2 key resources for successfully healing from narcissistic abuse (present or past)