Sometimes I feel like my middle name shouldn’t be “Happy”, it should be “Taboo” as I seem to gravitate toward topics that are generally unwanted, unaccepted and judged as bad. Powerlessness is one of those dear friends. The Joy-Based Living community is like Gold’s gym for radical self-awareness. It’s designed for the most enthusiastic self-awareness … More The beauty of powerlessness
Thanks to ALL of you who read and shared my recent post (7 Things Spiritual Teachers or Friends Should Never Say to Someone with CPTSR CPTSD or Severe Codependency) which went mini-viral which means people were really touched by it. One woman shared it on her Facebook wall along with the note: Please! Memorize this … More 13 Steps for Self-Championing Yourself After Emotional Trauma, CPTSR, CPTSD or Severe Codependency
Someone with COMPLEX Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) or Response (CPTSR) is someone who has pretty much “given up” their core identity, in lieu of serving others. This is NOT a natural state of being. This is a TRAINED state of being in which his or her ego-boundaries have been broken down or significantly cracked. … More 7 things spiritual teachers or friends should NEVER say to someone with CPTSR/ CPTSD or severe codependency
My greatest passion and desire is to see more kind-hearted, good-natured people get stronger and louder and take up more space in the world. Usually, this “type of person” tends to be on the quieter side. Sometimes this is due to their true nature. But more of the time, I think the hold-back has to … More Leap from Trauma to Peak Performance. How my friend’s vertigo disappeared. Resilience vs Relentless.
Do you feel stuck to someone (friend, lover, boss, family) who’s bad for you? The word DISGUST has gotten my attention recently. It’s a core human sensation that can provide HUGE breakthroughs in the areas of emotional trauma, abuse and toxic shame. But hardly anyone talks about it. I’ll have to provide context to get … More How to stop believing in assholes and start protecting yourself from disgusting behavior (with short asides on envy and OCD)
Do haters influence how you feel about yourself, about others or even about life itself? Do haters slow you down, suffocate your energy or stop you from doing what you love? Don’t give them that power. Fortify yourself. Use the experience as an opportunity to amplify your SUPERPOWER: Your bold, brash unconditional ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance of them … More Do haters slow you down or affect your mood? Use your superpower to WIN – with LOVE. #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
When you regularly feel confused, overwhelmed, disconnected-from-self, or a bit too crazy after spending time with the same person – consider the idea that it’s not you – maybe, just maybe – it’s them. (Search terms: cognitive dissonance and double-binds). Maybe said person is doing it on purpose, maybe she’s not. Maybe he’s got mental … More Affirmations for dealing with people who overwhelm you #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
Your freedom is why you’re here. It’s what makes the healing journey so worth it. I’ve witnessed and experienced these 4 Stages and they are tried and true, to the point of predictability. Check them out and you can decide for yourself. Although they generally go in order from 1 to 4, it’s normal to … More The freedom ride from Hell NO to Hell YES!! 4 stages. #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency