There is sacred, gorgeous healing power in slowing the f-down. Here is me, doing just that. XO Happy D! Want to set your joy free? Here are 3 options just for you: 12 Practices (for those who are ready to commit to self-care) These 12 Practices are a personal inner-strengthening “workout”: an e-book with a journal … More Just coz I talk slow doesn’t mean I’m stupid
One of the loneliest feelings in the world to me is trying to have a conversation with someone and your words have no landing place. I work really hard NOT to do that in close relationships where we are committed to connection, growth and development. BUT I’m really imperfect. And I’m strong. Sometimes that combo … More Navigating difficult conversations with friends
The intent of this article isn’t to define addiction, I’ll assume if you’re here reading this blog, you have a pretty good clue that pretty much all of us are addicted to something. Some see addiction as a disease or a disorder. Maybe that’s true, but I see it more as a “dee-fense” (like the … More The opposite of addiction is connection – tribal support, lizard lady, and why JBL
Intuition is awesome. Seriously. It’s like a magic ingredient that turns an ordinary experience into an extraordinary one. Because of its mysterious nature, our intuition connects us with a sense that we are part of something much, much bigger than ourselves. Heeding our intuition can be both humbling and exalting. In JBL language, listening to … More How to Seriously Boost Your Intuition
Spirituality says, “There is love in everything and in everyone, there is beauty everywhere.” A spiritual business says, “I see needs on the planet, I see problems to be solved so that more love and beauty can be revealed. I’m going to provide products or services that will be part of the solution.” Joy-based living is … More Joy-Based Living is where Business Meets Spirituality
So, the thing I despise most about healing from narcissistic abuse . . . oh, crap, I can’t limit it to one thing! So here’s a bullet point list and I’m sure it’s not complete. Please feel free to add your own in the comment section. You get to keep focusing on… guess who?… the … More You Deserve To Feel Amazing!
When rage has nowhere to go Because a bully has you hiding in fear Shame grows. When hidden rage is strong Shame deepens. Your light hides with it. Deeper. And then . . . Someone comes along and meets you At the depths Validates the hidden shameful experience And says, “Hello. You’re safe now. I … More Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019
Compassion. Love. Deep and true belief in someone. When your longstanding resilience becomes your achilles heel, when your altruism is unappreciated yet compulsively given, when you are chronically invalidated and devalued… How long does it take before you feel the pain? Better yet, how long does it take before you cut the ties? If you … More Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.
Well I had no idea there would be such a strong response to my first blog posts on narcissistic abuse. In fact, on Thanksgiving evening, I received an email from a long lost relative letting me know that we had similar experiences growing up. There’s a scene in the movie V for Vendetta where this … More Authentic Presence: A cure for loneliness (Healing from narcissistic abuse Part IV)
What it’s like to honor the space that connects each of our relationships? And how does joy grow the more we honor ourselves.
deJoly Labrier describes a Ceremonialist as “someone who helps others create a sacred space for healing, a focusing of their attention on something bigger than the situation that may be holding them back from the joy they deserve in life. The ceremony is co-created with objects they may hold dear or sacred, and that positive energy is used as a focal point for them to go back to in their inner world to bring them back into balance when they find themselves out of balance. Ceremonies are fluid. They evolve through conversation with a person who may only need someone to deeply listen to them without judgment or expectations. Being a ‘hollow Bone’ for Spirit is one of the aspects of this kind of work.” … More JBL Podcast with deJoly LaBrier, Ceremonialist