When rage has nowhere to go Because a bully has you hiding in fear Shame grows. When hidden rage is strong Shame deepens. Your light hides with it. Deeper. And then . . . Someone comes along and meets you At the depths Validates the hidden shameful experience And says, “Hello. You’re safe now. I … More Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019
Compassion. Love. Deep and true belief in someone. When your longstanding resilience becomes your achilles heel, when your altruism is unappreciated yet compulsively given, when you are chronically invalidated and devalued… How long does it take before you feel the pain? Better yet, how long does it take before you cut the ties? If you … More Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.
Well I had no idea there would be such a strong response to my first blog posts on narcissistic abuse. In fact, on Thanksgiving evening, I received an email from a long lost relative letting me know that we had similar experiences growing up. There’s a scene in the movie V for Vendetta where this … More Authentic Presence: A cure for loneliness (Healing from narcissistic abuse Part IV)
What it’s like to honor the space that connects each of our relationships? And how does joy grow the more we honor ourselves.
deJoly Labrier describes a Ceremonialist as “someone who helps others create a sacred space for healing, a focusing of their attention on something bigger than the situation that may be holding them back from the joy they deserve in life. The ceremony is co-created with objects they may hold dear or sacred, and that positive energy is used as a focal point for them to go back to in their inner world to bring them back into balance when they find themselves out of balance. Ceremonies are fluid. They evolve through conversation with a person who may only need someone to deeply listen to them without judgment or expectations. Being a ‘hollow Bone’ for Spirit is one of the aspects of this kind of work.” … More JBL Podcast with deJoly LaBrier, Ceremonialist