In Part I of the Healing from Narcissistic Abuse series, I talked about the “Invisibility cloak” and the looks of “contempt and disdain” that the narky-nark flings at his or her target to keep them “in their place” and to keep the narky-nark feeling superior. Now, I’d like to name what happens inside the person … More In the aftermath of an episode – Healing from narcissistic abuse
Part 1 of this post is here. WANT TO END PROCRASTINATION FOREVER ??? Procrastination doesn’t feel hazardous, which is why so many people let themselves get away with it. It’s like a deadly non-scented toxic fume. If you’re procrastinating on the activities that would generate the most joy (for yourself and those you love)… you’re … More Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse
Compassion. Love. Deep and true belief in someone. When your longstanding resilience becomes your achilles heel, when your altruism is unappreciated yet compulsively given, when you are chronically invalidated and devalued… How long does it take before you feel the pain? Better yet, how long does it take before you cut the ties? If you … More Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.
Well I had no idea there would be such a strong response to my first blog posts on narcissistic abuse. In fact, on Thanksgiving evening, I received an email from a long lost relative letting me know that we had similar experiences growing up. There’s a scene in the movie V for Vendetta where this … More Authentic Presence: A cure for loneliness (Healing from narcissistic abuse Part IV)
About 10 years ago, someone suggested I attend a co-dependency type of meeting. I was going through a lot of deep transformation and although I resisted the idea (big time), I finally made my way through the doors. I promised I would at least give it a try. That I would attend 6 meetings. Ugh. … More The Magic in You: AAA mantra for freeing your JOY!
When I was a little girl, my auntie used to read coffee grounds at our family gatherings. After dinner, the adults would line up with their almost-empty Turkish coffee cups, which were carefully turned upside-down on the saucers, with the remaining clump of coffee grounds semi-dried (stuck to the bottom and sides of the cup). … More Horses and grasshoppers and thistles, O MY!
Hello friends, I knew there would be a Part III to complete this series, but it surprised me when it emerged as a video. So … here you go! The links to Part I and Part II are below. The world needs your magic! Big love, Debbie Part I of this blog post: https://joybasedliving.com/2018/10/23/at-the-heart-of-narcissistic-abuse-2-core-abusive-behaviors-why-they-do-it-and-3-tips-for-you/ Part … More Don’t Hide Your Life – Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Part III
When the voice of “blah blah blah” stands in your way or interferes with the happiness and joy in your day, here’s what to do… Stay true to you! The world needs your magic! Debbie
Ooof! I’m listening to a Sadhguru youtube to start my day, as has been common practice lately. Through his words of wisdom, I’m experiencing a lovely sense of camaraderie as well as a sense of validation toward everything we’re doing and being at JBL. So … in this video, he’s answering someone’s question about “video … More A rant. A fairy tale about a horse and purple thistles. And a healing message: Stop compulsively dimming yourself down. (Healing from narcissistic abuse, Part II)
One of my favorite peeps on the planet is Iris Apfel. Her vision, in action, can inspire anyone who wants to express themselves more boldly, creatively, joyfully! Here’s a video to inspire you 😊 The world awaits your magic. Bring it on! Debbie