Tag: healing from emotional abuse

Rehab for codependency Part 1, toxic shame and guilt O JOY! #cptsd #cptsr #teatime Lidija Rangelovska, Sam Vaknin

May 29, 2019

The power of your RESOLVE is everything when it comes to healing codependency and recovering the treasure that’s on the other side of it – a life that expresses your truest and most awesome sense of self. It’s lie-busting at its finest. Within your own psyche. With compassion. I highly recommend The 2 Main Lies … More Rehab for codependency Part 1, toxic shame and guilt O JOY! #cptsd #cptsr #teatime Lidija Rangelovska, Sam Vaknin

Trauma – the Missing Peace (Tea Time, Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

May 24, 2019

Your degree of Joy-flow is directly correlated with your degree of Trauma-flow. Where grief is STUCK, Joy is lodged right behind. Joy is the very nature of your being, and like a volcano, it’s got energy and power behind it. So any lengthy stuck-ness is going to cause discomfort. It’s a signal for you to … More Trauma – the Missing Peace (Tea Time, Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

May 17, 2019

This letter started out as an essay from the perspective of someone who suffers with severe codependency issues. Someone who’s been targeted by a narcissist (aka co-narcissist) typically suffers with severe codependency issues. I want to acknowledge that up front so that you can easily recognize such a person – and thereby increase your ability to … More Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

Trauma – a personal note from me

April 27, 2019

Why would anybody – ever – in the history of humankind – put the brakes on their joy – if they hadn’t experienced some kind of trauma?They wouldn’t. Now, some people respond to trauma by repeating the behavior and traumatizing others. Because it’s familiar. Other people respond to trauma by repeating their experience, allowing themselves … More Trauma – a personal note from me

when abuse is invisible

April 23, 2019

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote this article: Invisibles Anonymous and have received quite a few awesome responses from readers, so I believe it’s striking a chord. Here’s a poem that is emerging from that conversation: Much love, Happy D!

From Powerblind to Running Free (poster)

April 14, 2019

Richard Grannon, a fellow youtuber who helps people heal from CPTSD/CPTSR, used the word “powerblind” the other day to describe people whose unprocessed trauma keeps them stuck in their old story, preventing them from moving forward. The metaphor struck me as RIGHT ON, and I ran with it. Whenever I think of Joy-Based Living, I … More From Powerblind to Running Free (poster)

Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

April 6, 2019

Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Connecting with Invisibles (and a bad hair day)

March 31, 2019

A few months ago, I purchased a web domain called InvisiblesAnonymous. After posting this video and re-listening to it… I am wondering about possibilities for the domain… what could it be? how could it best serve invisibles? Hmmm… Creating, contributing and loving my life. Wishing you the bestest of the mostest, Happy D!

The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)

March 27, 2019

You shouldn’t need years of therapy after emotional abuse to stop being held hostage by your very own: old thoughts, feelings, beliefs, conditioning or memories. Tactical Empathy is now used by the FBI because it takes MINUTES or SECONDS. Apply it for yourself. Let me know how it goes. Cheers to you, to your freedom … More The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)

My sweet auntie dropped an f-bomb (Brene Brown gives a thumbs up!)

March 23, 2019

Son of a biscuit! Leave it to beaver! Shut the front door! These toned-down-socially-acceptable-expletives are satisfying to some degree. But when you’ve got a lot of energy and passion – and you’re from New York – and you were born with a sailor-mouth – those phrases only carry you so far. Sometimes a good ‘ole … More My sweet auntie dropped an f-bomb (Brene Brown gives a thumbs up!)