Navigating difficult conversations with friends

One of the loneliest feelings in the world to me is trying to have a conversation with someone and your words have no landing place. I work really hard NOT to do that in close relationships where we are committed to connection, growth and development. BUT I’m really imperfect. And I’m strong. Sometimes that combo … More Navigating difficult conversations with friends

Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

How to Seriously Boost Your Intuition

Intuition is awesome. Seriously. It’s like a magic ingredient that turns an ordinary experience into an extraordinary one. Because of its mysterious nature, our intuition connects us with a sense that we are part of something much, much bigger than ourselves. Heeding our intuition can be both humbling and exalting. In JBL language, listening to … More How to Seriously Boost Your Intuition

A letter of honor, leadership, and recognition to the pioneers at JBL

Joy-Based Living is what it is today because of our members who have made the commitment and have taken the risk to pioneer this new way of being in the world. Each of our members is producing a powerful ripple that is impacting countless lives in a myriad of positive ways. Today, I wrote a … More A letter of honor, leadership, and recognition to the pioneers at JBL

Why Joy-Based Living is truly NOT for normal people

Class: It’s not for everyone. And neither is Joy-Based Living. One of our JBL members, deJoly LaBrier, just posted this in our private Basecamp community and I am sharing it with you with her permission because it is golden. She is just so freakin’ authentic and I love that! Feeling overcome with gratitude for the … More Why Joy-Based Living is truly NOT for normal people

Healing collective narcissism – thoughts on healthy anger, grief, intimidation and honoring our most basic experiences

Feeling safe with others who honor our authentic experience is the heartbeat of a joyful life. In such relationships, essential simplicity is a way of being. On the other hand, grandiosity and fear of being ordinary are the mainstays of a narcissistic personality. Constant complexity is the order of the day. Shame and fear are … More Healing collective narcissism – thoughts on healthy anger, grief, intimidation and honoring our most basic experiences

Courage to Connect: A JBL curriculum for teachers!

*New Joy-Based Living classroom support for teachers * *Please FOLLOW our store (see link below) * Hi Friends! Over the summer, my dear friend Amy Gregory and I collaborated to write a 20-lesson curriculum for elementary school teachers (3-5th grades). Amy’s been a teacher for many years, so we re-designed the JBL practices (especially Feed … More Courage to Connect: A JBL curriculum for teachers!