Tag: joy-based living

Goals vs Trajectory – Coaching yourself after narcissistic abuse

January 18, 2019

I just got off the phone with an amazing person who has focused her 2019 activities into a few important goals which feel energizing and empowering to her. Let’s call her Sally. Sally has had a history of narcissistic abuse, and she is actively healing from it through awareness, inner transformations, better boundaries and healthier … More Goals vs Trajectory – Coaching yourself after narcissistic abuse

Let your joy rise like bread in an oven – healing after narcissistic abuse

January 17, 2019

The only reason the nark works so hard to make you believe you’re helpless and choiceless the only reason they come on so strong is because they are lying. And training you to believe a lie about yourself is not easy. They know that if they back off from their agenda to make you feel … More Let your joy rise like bread in an oven – healing after narcissistic abuse

Joy-Based Living offers unique support for healing from narcissistic abuse

January 16, 2019

I’ve been thinking a lot about integrating Narcissistic Abuse with Joy-Based Living because it makes sense. In a weird but very true way. It’s flippin’ scary. So I did it. Today. You’ll now see a main menu item at the JBL website called “Narcissistic Abuse”. Part of my brain is yelling WTF!!??!! Here is the … More Joy-Based Living offers unique support for healing from narcissistic abuse

For the Love of Truth – Liberation from Narcissistic Abuse

January 15, 2019

There are two kinds of people in the world who love truth: children, and those who want liberation from narcissistic abuse. If you are the latter, this video is for you. Update: Upon reading this post, one of our readers, Will Mathes, commented: “I’d like to add to this list: people who are truly ‘done’/who’ve … More For the Love of Truth – Liberation from Narcissistic Abuse

Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse

January 11, 2019

Last night, a friend of mine who was feeling GREAT just a few days ago emailed to let me know she was feeling DOWN in the dumps. It was very late, so I asked her if she’d like me to send her some poems/vignettes I’d written recently. She welcomed the idea and afterwards she let … More Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse

Have you been Narcissized? Seven affirmations for breaking the trauma bond.

January 7, 2019

This blog post continually receives a large number of views, so I felt compelled to add this update on Jan 18, 2020. I have been on a search for you to refer you to someone who can support you in healing CPTSR/ CPTSD – someone who knows their stuff, is friendly and professional, and is … More Have you been Narcissized? Seven affirmations for breaking the trauma bond.

Healing collective narcissism – thoughts on healthy anger, grief, intimidation and honoring our most basic experiences

December 30, 2018

Feeling safe with others who honor our authentic experience is the heartbeat of a joyful life. In such relationships, essential simplicity is a way of being. On the other hand, grandiosity and fear of being ordinary are the mainstays of a narcissistic personality. Constant complexity is the order of the day. Shame and fear are … More Healing collective narcissism – thoughts on healthy anger, grief, intimidation and honoring our most basic experiences

What the narcissist is really saying and what you can do about it.

December 16, 2018

  Bottom line: A narcissistic personality is one that experiences a core shame and then creates a distorted grandiose image in order to avoid the shame (doth thou protest too much, eh?). In order to maintain their image and avoid their pain (and because shame is a relational experience), a narky nark needs others to … More What the narcissist is really saying and what you can do about it.

Where do all the feelings go? (Part I)

December 12, 2018

That depends. On whether they are honored or shamed. Whether they are treated with loyalty or betrayal. Whether they are welcomed with your presence or rejected through your absence. Tune in. Today. Right now. This moment. You Know Where They Go. Shhh… listen within… I’ll say more in a future blog post. For now, take … More Where do all the feelings go? (Part I)

Rage and Anger, Perspective and Scale. A Design Technique that can Help You Heal from the Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

December 11, 2018

Update November 8 2020: I believe this post describes the an important reason for having a spiritual belief and practice. Aligning your energy and intention with the benevolent goodness of the Universe offers a true and deep feeling of security. As children, we automatically have faith in those bigger than us, our caregivers. As adults, … More Rage and Anger, Perspective and Scale. A Design Technique that can Help You Heal from the Effects of Narcissistic Abuse