The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)

You shouldn’t need years of therapy after emotional abuse to stop being held hostage by your very own: old thoughts, feelings, beliefs, conditioning or memories. Tactical Empathy is now used by the FBI because it takes MINUTES or SECONDS. Apply it for yourself. Let me know how it goes. Cheers to you, to your freedom … More The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)

Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Raised in a narcissistic household, I became very familiar with looks (and words) of disgust and contempt flung mercilessly at anyone and everyone. As a child, I couldn’t distinguish the fact that those messages were unwarranted and that they were not about me (or the others who received their blasts of contempt). And so, I … More Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Envy is something that’s taken me a while to really understand, and yesterday I got such pristine clarity about it. The breakthrough is so freeing to me that I couldn’t wait to share it with you. Healthy person When a healthy person sees someone else doing or being something they want to do or be … More Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

One of our members shared this in our JBL Authentic Connections conversation at Basecamp (see treasure map) and it was so juicy good that a bunch of others in the group commented that they would be saving it and referring back to it. She references other books and people, but I credit her with choosing … More Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

It’s so much easier to learn about psychological abuse when you can actually see it in action.  Check out this brilliant, poignant commentary in response to this 5-minute interview excerpt with Steve Harvey and Monique. What excites me most is that it offers a play-by-play account of the abusive nature of narcissism. It shows: in … More Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)