Finding healthy power and balance after emotional trauma* can be tricky because there is a tendency to go back to what’s familiar which isn’t necessarily what’s healthy! The Goldilocks fairy tale offers a great metaphor that can help you find your way. “This porridge is too cold, this one is too hot… and this one … More Goldilocks and the 3 Levels of Power
Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy
A few months ago, I purchased a web domain called InvisiblesAnonymous. After posting this video and re-listening to it… I am wondering about possibilities for the domain… what could it be? how could it best serve invisibles? Hmmm… Creating, contributing and loving my life. Wishing you the bestest of the mostest, Happy D!
“In how many ways do I torture myself? Oh, let me count the ways!” I had so much fun making this video… there’s something about pet peeves that tickles my funny bone! Hope it tickles yours too! What are some of your joy-thieving habits? They can be behaviors, but thoughts or feelings can be included … More Stop Chasing Pennies – and other annoying joy-thieving habits
Son of a biscuit! Leave it to beaver! Shut the front door! These toned-down-socially-acceptable-expletives are satisfying to some degree. But when you’ve got a lot of energy and passion – and you’re from New York – and you were born with a sailor-mouth – those phrases only carry you so far. Sometimes a good ‘ole … More My sweet auntie dropped an f-bomb (Brene Brown gives a thumbs up!)
You know how sometimes you find yourself repeating the same darn pattern of “the same mistake” and you just can’t see what’s driving the whole thing? Repetition compulsion can be devastating. But also very funny! We repeat what we know. We repeat decisions that we made a long long time ago when our discernment abilities … More You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion
Having emotional flashbacks isn’t necessarily a negative or bad experience. Daydreaming, creativity, relaxed contentment can feel like a day on the beach whilst being surrounded by cray-cray people. Opium, LSD and alcohol can also be pleasant. But they’re not good for driving. Or for gazelles living in the grasslands of Africa. Relaxed alertness is gold. … More A drunk gazelle is like a bald tire (emotional abuse, emotional flashbacks, cptsd, cptsr, 5 finger mnemonic)
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