Tag: healing from abuse

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

February 14, 2019

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

February 13, 2019

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

The one lie the nark needs you to buy (hint – Scar from Lion King) (Coach Notes)

February 11, 2019

One of the biggest challenges I face when coaching someone who continues to bump into the same roadblock is uncovering the false belief that is running their inner software. To do this, I always assume that there is a protector in them that’s gotten out of control and who is no longer serving the person. … More The one lie the nark needs you to buy (hint – Scar from Lion King) (Coach Notes)

Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?

January 28, 2019

I know what it’s like to feel powerless in the face of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel helpless in my ability to help someone who is a co-narcissist living under the tyranny of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel stuck in an old identity which a narcissist deliberately … More Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?

4 resources for empowering your sanity and selfhood during and after a narcissistic relationship and 1 resource for treating spirit possession

January 27, 2019

I have a friend who is navigating 2 abusive, significant relationships. She is living with a psychologically abusive parent, and one of her adult children is displaying narcissistic verbally abusive behaviors. She has been on a healing path for a couple of years and has learned a lot about setting boundaries and healing toxic shame. … More 4 resources for empowering your sanity and selfhood during and after a narcissistic relationship and 1 resource for treating spirit possession

Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

January 26, 2019

I find narcissists so very compelling because, point blank: They have brought out the hero in me. And in many people I care about. Henry Boseley, in a great video essay, argues “Why Batman Is The Best Superhero” (https://youtu.be/b4lRkI2ScuA). I’m not sure if I agree with him about Batman, but I’ve always felt the Joker was … More Why I find narcissists so very compelling and why co-narcissists are the real heroes of the story (Batman)

Thriving after narcissistic abuse, 3 stages of healing to help you write your own ending

January 25, 2019

In the last few days, I shared 3 important posts with you: Definition of co-narcissist Why I love co-narcissists Narcissistic abuse article collection.    My intention is to share leading edge information for how to end and heal the repetition of narcissistic abuse, an all-too-common relational tragedy in our world today. I will continue to … More Thriving after narcissistic abuse, 3 stages of healing to help you write your own ending

Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too

January 24, 2019

(note: a co-narcissist is someone who has been targeted by a narcissist and is dealing with the effects of complex post traumatic stress (CPTSD / CPTSR / codependency)) I dislike labeling people. I dislike labels so much that I chose NOT to become a psychologist after achieving a Master’s Degree in family counseling. I thought … More Why I love co-narcissists and why you should too

Definition of narcissistic abuse and healing and thriving

January 18, 2019

Narcissistic abuse happens when someone fucks with your reality regarding how you experience and perceive your core identity, convincing you to believe you are weak and flawed. Victim shaming and victim blaming happen when you think no one should have fucked with your reality to begin with and that it happened because you were weak. … More Definition of narcissistic abuse and healing and thriving

Goals vs Trajectory – Coaching yourself after narcissistic abuse

January 18, 2019

I just got off the phone with an amazing person who has focused her 2019 activities into a few important goals which feel energizing and empowering to her. Let’s call her Sally. Sally has had a history of narcissistic abuse, and she is actively healing from it through awareness, inner transformations, better boundaries and healthier … More Goals vs Trajectory – Coaching yourself after narcissistic abuse