Tag: healing from abuse

Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

March 9, 2019

When someone you love is repeatedly hurtful, facing reality can be hard. For this reason, whether it’s your own bubble of denial or someone else’s, popping such bubbles isn’t usually fun and (more often than not) requires repetition. Resistance is often due to Stockholm Syndrome (also known as trauma bonding or toxic loyalty). But the … More Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

March 3, 2019

And learn what you can do about it, O YEAH! I used to teach a 5-week course on manifestation called Creation Mastermind. “It works!” were the most repeated words from the majority of my students. I still get calls about teaching it again. YES. It DOES work. I may go back to teaching this course … More Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

March 3, 2019

The magic of MILESTONES… YEAH. I posted this (below) for the inner circle of peeps at JBL (called Authentic Connections which you can see on our Treasure Map) because when I Kickstarted JBL in 2016, I NEVER in a million years intended or predicted that we’d be having a deep and ongoing transformative conversation about … More From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

March 2, 2019

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)

February 26, 2019

I just counted. I have shared 76 blog posts here at Joy-Based Living, since October 23, 2018. That’s only 4 months. Mostly along the topics of narcissistic abuse and bringing out the best in yourself and others. WHEW!!! This brought me back to January 6, 2018, when I first started speaking publicly about narcissism. With … More Goat Notes Revisited (and Thank You)

How to Spot a Narcissist – and Your #1 Blind Spot

February 23, 2019

This topic seems to be hot hot hot right now, and everyone seems to want to know more, so in this video, I’ll offer my personal experience. At the end of the video, I offer a coaching assignment. Should you choose to take me up on it, I’d love to hear from you in the … More How to Spot a Narcissist – and Your #1 Blind Spot

Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

February 20, 2019

One of our members shared this in our JBL Authentic Connections conversation at Basecamp (see treasure map) and it was so juicy good that a bunch of others in the group commented that they would be saving it and referring back to it. She references other books and people, but I credit her with choosing … More Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

February 17, 2019

It’s so much easier to learn about psychological abuse when you can actually see it in action.  Check out this brilliant, poignant commentary in response to this 5-minute interview excerpt with Steve Harvey and Monique. What excites me most is that it offers a play-by-play account of the abusive nature of narcissism. It shows: in … More Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

You Deserve To Feel Amazing!

February 15, 2019

So, the thing I despise most about healing from narcissistic abuse . . . oh, crap, I can’t limit it to one thing! So here’s a bullet point list and I’m sure it’s not complete. Please feel free to add your own in the comment section. You get to keep focusing on… guess who?… the … More You Deserve To Feel Amazing!

Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)

February 15, 2019

It’s taken more than a few attempts for me to make sense of Stockholm Syndrome, a twisted dynamic where a hostage bonds with his or her captor (due to skewed power dynamics and small tokens of kindness given to the hostage / child / abused person). It’s taken many more attempts to get to the … More Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)