Tag: healing

Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

May 17, 2019

This letter started out as an essay from the perspective of someone who suffers with severe codependency issues. Someone who’s been targeted by a narcissist (aka co-narcissist) typically suffers with severe codependency issues. I want to acknowledge that up front so that you can easily recognize such a person – and thereby increase your ability to … More Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

Hey, your neediness is showing! (Worst thing imaginable to say to someone with codependency issues)

May 14, 2019

The essence of my life’s work is turning nothing into something… making the invisible visible. This is the case when it comes to healing the inner parts of ourselves that have been abandoned, neglected, shamed, rejected. Letting them be witnessed and validated, giving them the air and oxygen so that they can heal. Turning nothing … More Hey, your neediness is showing! (Worst thing imaginable to say to someone with codependency issues)

Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

May 12, 2019

A Course in Miracles says that our job is not to teach love (which is impossible) but to remove the blocks to our awareness of its constant, ever-radiant presence. I wonder, if maybe, that’s the task of our inner mother, our inner parent. To create a space, an environment, where love is free to BE. … More Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

Connection (Part 2)

April 28, 2019

A few days ago I shared a post about Connection and it’s been very well received, especially by those in our JBL community, which signals me that the message is aligned with our core values (yay!). This brings me so much joy! Yesterday, probably drawing from that inspiration, this lovely poster came through. (click image … More Connection (Part 2)

Trauma – a personal note from me

April 27, 2019

Why would anybody – ever – in the history of humankind – put the brakes on their joy – if they hadn’t experienced some kind of trauma?They wouldn’t. Now, some people respond to trauma by repeating the behavior and traumatizing others. Because it’s familiar. Other people respond to trauma by repeating their experience, allowing themselves … More Trauma – a personal note from me

when abuse is invisible

April 23, 2019

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote this article: Invisibles Anonymous and have received quite a few awesome responses from readers, so I believe it’s striking a chord. Here’s a poem that is emerging from that conversation: Much love, Happy D!

Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

April 6, 2019

Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Invisibility Exacerbates Trauma – Let Yourself Be Seen

April 6, 2019

A few months ago, I purchased InvisiblesAnonymous.com after beginning to understand the prevalence of loneliness, trauma, and the healing power of truly being seen. Yesterday, I felt inspired to write this short essay and it was so juicy good that I wanted it to have its own unique URL: https://joybasedliving.com/invisiblesanonymous/. Fortunately, I am not invisible … More Invisibility Exacerbates Trauma – Let Yourself Be Seen

Dimes, F-Bombs and the Fountain of Youth – interview with Glenda Clemens

April 3, 2019

This was so flippin’ fun! Enjoy! Glenda’s info: http://gclemens.com FB: @AuthorGlendaClemens

The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)

March 27, 2019

You shouldn’t need years of therapy after emotional abuse to stop being held hostage by your very own: old thoughts, feelings, beliefs, conditioning or memories. Tactical Empathy is now used by the FBI because it takes MINUTES or SECONDS. Apply it for yourself. Let me know how it goes. Cheers to you, to your freedom … More The SuperPowers of Validation and Tactical Empathy in Healing after Emotional Abuse (CPTSD CPTSR)