Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

One of our members shared this in our JBL Authentic Connections conversation at Basecamp (see treasure map) and it was so juicy good that a bunch of others in the group commented that they would be saving it and referring back to it. She references other books and people, but I credit her with choosing … More Exploring Shame (a breakthrough after a toxic shame attack)

Healthy Capitalism Requires Conscious Leadership (Simon Sinek)

Telling the truth, especially in a narcissistic culture, doesn’t make someone popular. In fact, there are often repercussions for saying “what is”, especially if it goes against convention. That’s why I appreciate Simon Sinek’s leadership. He’s using his popularity to speak truth to power. I happen to like capitalism. He’s naming what’s wrong with how … More Healthy Capitalism Requires Conscious Leadership (Simon Sinek)

Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

When Shame Begets Shame by Christine Louis de Canonville has become my favorite go-to resource and reference for those who are healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse (culturally and personally, but especially the latter, and even more so if you were shaped by a narcissistic parent or sibling). Chapters 1, 16 and 17 are very … More Shamelessly reveal the truth about your self-worth (healing after narcissistic abuse) (co-narcissists, this one’s for you)

Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

It’s so much easier to learn about psychological abuse when you can actually see it in action.  Check out this brilliant, poignant commentary in response to this 5-minute interview excerpt with Steve Harvey and Monique. What excites me most is that it offers a play-by-play account of the abusive nature of narcissism. It shows: in … More Best LIVE response to a narcissist with play-by-play commentary – not sure how long it’s going to be up on Youtube (Monique and Steve Harvey)

You Deserve To Feel Amazing!

So, the thing I despise most about healing from narcissistic abuse . . . oh, crap, I can’t limit it to one thing! So here’s a bullet point list and I’m sure it’s not complete. Please feel free to add your own in the comment section. You get to keep focusing on… guess who?… the … More You Deserve To Feel Amazing!

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

Someone just forwarded me this youtube about narcissism by Russell Brand. As much as I appreciate his idealism and admire his abilities to take big, abstract ideas and turn them into 2 minute soundbites – I think his message is a dangerous one. * My response to Russell’s youtube is for those of you who are … More Is love always the answer? (dealing with narcissism, response to Russell Brand)

On labels, spirituality, narcissistic abuse and power (Mr. Rogers, Marianne Williamson)

Are you too spiritual for labels? I used to be. I mentioned this in a previous blog post (https://joybasedliving.com/2019/01/24/why-i-love-co-narcissists-and-why-you-should-too/) but today it came up in an f-bomb kind of story – with a lot of energy and clarity. So I thought you might like it! Story Today I spoke with a beautiful, deep and spiritual … More On labels, spirituality, narcissistic abuse and power (Mr. Rogers, Marianne Williamson)

Embracing fear and anxiety on the path of awakening (Russel Brand)

I don’t normally post other people’s videos on this here blog, but this 3 min. message is just so wonderfully poignant for spiritual journeyers who are on the path of awakening. I’m someone who had the doors of spiritual wisdom flung wide open to her at age 19. My extraordinary mentor of many years (RIP … More Embracing fear and anxiety on the path of awakening (Russel Brand)

Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?

I know what it’s like to feel powerless in the face of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel helpless in my ability to help someone who is a co-narcissist living under the tyranny of a narcissist. I know what it’s like to feel stuck in an old identity which a narcissist deliberately … More Is narcissistic abuse a modern, silent holocaust?