There are two kinds of people in the world who love truth: children, and those who want liberation from narcissistic abuse. If you are the latter, this video is for you. Update: Upon reading this post, one of our readers, Will Mathes, commented: “I’d like to add to this list: people who are truly ‘done’/who’ve … More For the Love of Truth – Liberation from Narcissistic Abuse
Last night, a friend of mine who was feeling GREAT just a few days ago emailed to let me know she was feeling DOWN in the dumps. It was very late, so I asked her if she’d like me to send her some poems/vignettes I’d written recently. She welcomed the idea and afterwards she let … More Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse
This blog post continually receives a large number of views, so I felt compelled to add this update on Jan 18, 2020. I have been on a search for you to refer you to someone who can support you in healing CPTSR/ CPTSD – someone who knows their stuff, is friendly and professional, and is … More Have you been Narcissized? Seven affirmations for breaking the trauma bond.
When rage has nowhere to go Because a bully has you hiding in fear Shame grows. When hidden rage is strong Shame deepens. Your light hides with it. Deeper. And then . . . Someone comes along and meets you At the depths Validates the hidden shameful experience And says, “Hello. You’re safe now. I … More Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019
Feeling safe with others who honor our authentic experience is the heartbeat of a joyful life. In such relationships, essential simplicity is a way of being. On the other hand, grandiosity and fear of being ordinary are the mainstays of a narcissistic personality. Constant complexity is the order of the day. Shame and fear are … More Healing collective narcissism – thoughts on healthy anger, grief, intimidation and honoring our most basic experiences
Bottom line: A narcissistic personality is one that experiences a core shame and then creates a distorted grandiose image in order to avoid the shame (doth thou protest too much, eh?). In order to maintain their image and avoid their pain (and because shame is a relational experience), a narky nark needs others to … More What the narcissist is really saying and what you can do about it.
That depends. On whether they are honored or shamed. Whether they are treated with loyalty or betrayal. Whether they are welcomed with your presence or rejected through your absence. Tune in. Today. Right now. This moment. You Know Where They Go. Shhh… listen within… I’ll say more in a future blog post. For now, take … More Where do all the feelings go? (Part I)
Update November 8 2020: I believe this post describes the an important reason for having a spiritual belief and practice. Aligning your energy and intention with the benevolent goodness of the Universe offers a true and deep feeling of security. As children, we automatically have faith in those bigger than us, our caregivers. As adults, … More Rage and Anger, Perspective and Scale. A Design Technique that can Help You Heal from the Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
Part 1 of this post is here. WANT TO END PROCRASTINATION FOREVER ??? Procrastination doesn’t feel hazardous, which is why so many people let themselves get away with it. It’s like a deadly non-scented toxic fume. If you’re procrastinating on the activities that would generate the most joy (for yourself and those you love)… you’re … More Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse
After reading Christine Canonville’s book Shame Begets Shame, my eyes are now wide open to the harm of co-dependency literature for people who are healing from narcissistic abuse (which could have happened through parents, a sibling, or even bullying at school). The co-dependency literature isn’t just outdated, it’s misplaced and dangerous, like being given the … More Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist
