Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

This letter started out as an essay from the perspective of someone who suffers with severe codependency issues. Someone who’s been targeted by a narcissist (aka co-narcissist) typically suffers with severe codependency issues. I want to acknowledge that up front so that you can easily recognize such a person – and thereby increase your ability to … More Dear Friend, Your advice was great – but there’s a tyrant in my brain (codependency/ CPTSD/ CPTSR/ emotional abuse)

Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

A Course in Miracles says that our job is not to teach love (which is impossible) but to remove the blocks to our awareness of its constant, ever-radiant presence. I wonder, if maybe, that’s the task of our inner mother, our inner parent. To create a space, an environment, where love is free to BE. … More Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

The Big Love in Me and in You – with quote by Louise Hay

If the love in me (or you) wasn’t so big great magnanimous huge plentiful and powerful (like the ocean), then putting the brakes on it (which is what emotional abuse and/ or neglect/ CPTSD/ CPTSR feels like) would not ever hurt. There is always present in each of us a fullness of love longing to … More The Big Love in Me and in You – with quote by Louise Hay

Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Double binds suck big time – #1 solution that completely transcends and annihilates the problem

Double binds will confuse you, disarm you, disrupt your life and drain you. That is exactly what they are designed to do. Here is my perspective and experience on transcending the little f*ckers! Knock those suckers out of your life once and for all. You deserve to feel amazing! XOXO Happy D! ps. if you … More Double binds suck big time – #1 solution that completely transcends and annihilates the problem

Navigating difficult conversations with friends

One of the loneliest feelings in the world to me is trying to have a conversation with someone and your words have no landing place. I work really hard NOT to do that in close relationships where we are committed to connection, growth and development. BUT I’m really imperfect. And I’m strong. Sometimes that combo … More Navigating difficult conversations with friends