It’s taken more than a few attempts for me to make sense of Stockholm Syndrome, a twisted dynamic where a hostage bonds with his or her captor (due to skewed power dynamics and small tokens of kindness given to the hostage / child / abused person). It’s taken many more attempts to get to the … More Reclaim Your Power – Break the Stockholm Syndrome Bond for Good (Terminate trauma bonding and put an end to misplaced loyalty)
There’s a popular question asked among personal development leaders which I have tried to engage but it always stopped short for me. Although I really like the “edginess” of the question and the fact that it challenges a person into upgrading their life, its power always felt too harsh to me. The question is: “What … More What would you do if you absolutely knew this to be true?
Are you too spiritual for labels? I used to be. I mentioned this in a previous blog post (https://joybasedliving.com/2019/01/24/why-i-love-co-narcissists-and-why-you-should-too/) but today it came up in an f-bomb kind of story – with a lot of energy and clarity. So I thought you might like it! Story Today I spoke with a beautiful, deep and spiritual … More On labels, spirituality, narcissistic abuse and power (Mr. Rogers, Marianne Williamson)
Brene Brown is researcher and storyteller who’s kicked open the door to a worldwide conversation on shame-awareness, vulnerability and wholeheartedness. Simon Sinek is a highly valued consultant to corporate and military leaders worldwide, encouraging millions of people to name their WHY and bring purpose to their daily lives. Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat Pray Love, … More Empaths in Leadership and Power O Yeah
Some things don’t change. After 20 years of coaching people of ALL walks of life (children and adults, men and women, CEO’s and employees, dancers and teachers, wealthy and poor, traumatized and thriving) . . . this one piece of advice is as pristine as the day my first coach gave it to me. In … More Master Coaching Tip
The 7 Powers of highly effective empaths belong to everyone, but they are more pronounced in empathic folks. When these Powers are under-developed, suffering ensues. But when they are honed through awareness, validation and regular use, all things become possible. Here is an outline of the 7 Powers and their corresponding essential actions. I’ll also … More The 7 Powers of Highly Effective Empaths
In any negotiation, there are 3 levels of YES: The BS-YES where the person tells you yes, but you know and they know that they don’t really mean it. The HALF-BLOODED YES, where the person tells you yes, but they have reservations about really going ahead, and so they hold back, or procrastinate, or sabotage … More Are You Worth Fighting For? How to Negotiate for Your Joy
Bottom line: A narcissistic personality is one that experiences a core shame and then creates a distorted grandiose image in order to avoid the shame (doth thou protest too much, eh?). In order to maintain their image and avoid their pain (and because shame is a relational experience), a narky nark needs others to … More What the narcissist is really saying and what you can do about it.
(If you received 2 blog posts from me in your email today and the first link isn’t working, it’s because it was replaced with this one… sorry about any confusion!) A close friend of mine has a hubby who designs spaces like a bad-ass mofo. He says that of the 6 key design elements (scale, size, … More Rage and Anger, Perspective and Scale. A Design Technique that can Help You Heal from the Effects of Narcissistic Abuse