Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God. – Madeleine L’Engle

I haven’t talked much about spirituality and God on this blog because I think the word “God” can really isolate and alienate people. Which is the opposite of connection, and therefore the opposite of JOY. There’s just too much baggage around “the word” God. Too many individuals and groups have used it to control, punish, torture … More Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God. – Madeleine L’Engle

Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

When someone you love is repeatedly hurtful, facing reality can be hard. For this reason, whether it’s your own bubble of denial or someone else’s, popping such bubbles isn’t usually fun and (more often than not) requires repetition. Resistance is often due to Stockholm Syndrome (also known as trauma bonding or toxic loyalty). But the … More Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

Gossip vs. Speaking Up (saying what needs to be said)

I don’t know what to say to introduce this video. I think it speaks for itself. Empower Your Joy, Happy D! If you like this blog, please consider being a Patreon and take advantage of the Special Offer available through March 13, 2019 at https://www.patreon.com/joybasedliving If this video message speaks to you, so will  the Joy-Based … More Gossip vs. Speaking Up (saying what needs to be said)

Navigating difficult conversations with friends

One of the loneliest feelings in the world to me is trying to have a conversation with someone and your words have no landing place. I work really hard NOT to do that in close relationships where we are committed to connection, growth and development. BUT I’m really imperfect. And I’m strong. Sometimes that combo … More Navigating difficult conversations with friends

Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Raised in a narcissistic household, I became very familiar with looks (and words) of disgust and contempt flung mercilessly at anyone and everyone. As a child, I couldn’t distinguish the fact that those messages were unwarranted and that they were not about me (or the others who received their blasts of contempt). And so, I … More Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

#1 Core Skill for Empowerment

You owe it to yourself to have this skill. I hope it helps you as much as it has for all of us at Joy-Based Living. You are worthy of your most empowered, enjoyable life. Much love, Happy D! ps. If you like this video, you’ll LOVE the E-book (with videos and journal). O Yeah! … More #1 Core Skill for Empowerment

Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Envy is something that’s taken me a while to really understand, and yesterday I got such pristine clarity about it. The breakthrough is so freeing to me that I couldn’t wait to share it with you. Healthy person When a healthy person sees someone else doing or being something they want to do or be … More Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

How to Stay Focused – No Matter What

In my observation, joyful people are focused people. So I have a very serious question for you, seriously (tongue in cheek :-)): How seriously do you take your JOY? In this video, you’ll learn how taking your joy seriously plays right into your ability to focus – and stay focused over time. No matter what. … More How to Stay Focused – No Matter What

Joy-Based Living is where Business Meets Spirituality

Spirituality says, “There is love in everything and in everyone, there is beauty everywhere.” A spiritual business says, “I see needs on the planet, I see problems to be solved so that more love and beauty can be revealed. I’m going to provide products or services that will be part of the solution.” Joy-based living is … More Joy-Based Living is where Business Meets Spirituality

Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse

I’m thrilled to bring this conversation about spirituality to the table side by side with the topic of healing from narcissistic abuse. I think it has everything to do with awakening healthy power and even inspiring great leadership. The ONLY reason narcissistic abuse is a problem is because it’s a denial of who we truly … More Flying Free – Let’s talk about Spirituality – Especially after Narcissistic Abuse