More and more people are waking up to the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse, personally, professionally and as a society. This is AWESOME. And… there is a learning curve involved. Since I’ll be writing more about co-narcissists for the purposes of healing and thriving, I want to offer you a clear definition. A couple of … More Definition of co-narcissist
I wanted this collection of blog posts about co-narcissism and healing from narcissistic abuse to be easily available in one place. I will always honor the co-narcissist’s superpowers of resilience and self-reliance, compassion and kindness. My prayer is that you keep them in balance so you can enjoy your life on your terms!
Your authority. Your decisions. Your values. Your feelings. If you were affected by a narcissist, those are the aspects of your life that were manipulated in order to control you. Your Power A narcissist feels so weak and insecure on the inside that the only way they know to experience security is by taking someone … More Indifference Sucks – Involvement is Your Strength – Embody Well-being Today
Narcissistic abuse happens when someone fucks with your reality regarding how you experience and perceive your core identity, convincing you to believe you are weak and flawed. Victim shaming and victim blaming happen when you think no one should have fucked with your reality to begin with and that it happened because you were weak. … More Definition of narcissistic abuse and healing and thriving
I just got off the phone with an amazing person who has focused her 2019 activities into a few important goals which feel energizing and empowering to her. Let’s call her Sally. Sally has had a history of narcissistic abuse, and she is actively healing from it through awareness, inner transformations, better boundaries and healthier … More Goals vs Trajectory – Coaching yourself after narcissistic abuse
The only reason the nark works so hard to make you believe you’re helpless and choiceless the only reason they come on so strong is because they are lying. And training you to believe a lie about yourself is not easy. They know that if they back off from their agenda to make you feel … More Let your joy rise like bread in an oven – healing after narcissistic abuse
I’ve been thinking a lot about integrating Narcissistic Abuse with Joy-Based Living because it makes sense. In a weird but very true way. It’s flippin’ scary. So I did it. Today. You’ll now see a main menu item at the JBL website called “Narcissistic Abuse”. Part of my brain is yelling WTF!!??!! Here is the … More Joy-Based Living offers unique support for healing from narcissistic abuse
There are two kinds of people in the world who love truth: children, and those who want liberation from narcissistic abuse. If you are the latter, this video is for you. Update: Upon reading this post, one of our readers, Will Mathes, commented: “I’d like to add to this list: people who are truly ‘done’/who’ve … More For the Love of Truth – Liberation from Narcissistic Abuse
Last night, a friend of mine who was feeling GREAT just a few days ago emailed to let me know she was feeling DOWN in the dumps. It was very late, so I asked her if she’d like me to send her some poems/vignettes I’d written recently. She welcomed the idea and afterwards she let … More Trust the sunshine in your body to eliminate the black clouds in your brain – taking risks for joy after narcissistic abuse
These days, when someone asks for my help because they’re feeling perplexed, confused, distracted, “dilemma’d”, the next thing I listen for is if they’ve just experienced communication with a narcissist (or someone who’s part of the nark’s web) . . . IF the answer is “yes,” . . . THEN the communication pattern becomes the … More Have you been Narcissized? Seven affirmations for breaking the trauma bond.