Paulina never mentions “narcissistic abuse” directly in this video (below), but it sounds like she’s been through some good therapy and I’m hoping she knows that what she is dealing with is Complex Post Traumatic Stress. The signs are there: Her bewilderment and confusion. CHECK. Her feelings of abandonment and betrayal. CHECK. Her confession that … More ex-Wife of narcissist – all the signs are there – Paulina Porizkova – CPTSR CPTSD severe codependency
Do you keep giving your power away to someone(s) in the name of love? Are you “too” giving/ good-natured/ kind-hearted??? Do you keep HOPING they will change? This one is for YOU. Listen to all episodes and share your questions here: https://anchor.fm/sassyshorts Grief is key. Really releasing – even killing – your fantasy – is … More Do you have HOPE(ium) addiction? When you break unhealthy bonds – the last thread can be the hardest #cptsr #cptsd #codependency
If you’re experiencing . . . TOO MUCH brain fog (not the desirable “idea generating” kind) TOO distracted, adhd-type of behavior (not the good juicy entrepreneurial kind) TOO MUCH people pleasing/ codependency (not the healthy customer service kind) LACK of awareness about what you really want – or what you really need in order to … More You want to keep growing. You’re stuck. You sense it’s YOU that’s in the way. This is for YOU.
Rather than explaining, I’m just going to post this image. I think it’s self explanatory. If you have questions or comments, please share. Negotiating for your JOY. It’s who you are. Much love, Happy D! Debbie Happy Cohen, founder of Joy-Based Living I want you to LOVE negotiating for JOY! | Author | Coach at … More The hardest part of healing emotional trauma is naming the enemy – Notes from my journal – CPTSD CPTSR CPTSI
One thing I know for sure is that self-awareness is key to personal transformation. And I want you to benefit from what we’ve learned at JBL over the last 3 years in our “insider” community conversations and from 20 years of coaching. I’m just tickled beyond description to share it with you! Let’s look … More Empowerment Trifecta – spirituality, psychology and coaching – our 12 Practices have paid off
Sometimes I feel like my middle name shouldn’t be “Happy”, it should be “Taboo” as I seem to gravitate toward topics that are generally unwanted, unaccepted and judged as bad. Powerlessness is one of those dear friends. The Joy-Based Living community is like Gold’s gym for radical self-awareness. It’s designed for the most enthusiastic self-awareness … More The beauty of powerlessness
Quick note: I’ll address trauma and how it relates to this topic at the end of this post. #CPTSR #CPTSD #codependency I’ve seen a growing trend where really popular motivational interviewers are combining SCIENCE with psychology and coaching. But they’re completely skipping the conversation about the immeasurable, mysterious topic of spirituality. I call BS. I … More How to honor your spirituality as you heal and as you grow – the light in your eyes matters.
Thanks to ALL of you who read and shared my recent post (7 Things Spiritual Teachers or Friends Should Never Say to Someone with CPTSR CPTSD or Severe Codependency) which went mini-viral which means people were really touched by it. One woman shared it on her Facebook wall along with the note: Please! Memorize this … More 13 Steps for Self-Championing Yourself After Emotional Trauma, CPTSR, CPTSD or Severe Codependency
Trauma. Spirituality. Peak Performance. These are my areas of expertise, and they are all strangely and magically intertwined. The more I learn about one, the more the other 2 make sense. The more I help someone strengthen one, the stronger the other 2 become in their lives. Imagine an Olympic hopeful. She has a mental … More Fuck Normal. Spirituality, trauma and peak performance.
Do you feel stuck to someone (friend, lover, boss, family) who’s bad for you? The word DISGUST has gotten my attention recently. It’s a core human sensation that can provide HUGE breakthroughs in the areas of emotional trauma, abuse and toxic shame. But hardly anyone talks about it. I’ll have to provide context to get … More How to stop believing in assholes and start protecting yourself from disgusting behavior (with short asides on envy and OCD)