Healthy parent healthy child archetype (curing CPTSD CPTSR)

  Healing and curing CPTSD/R* requires willingness, determination, courage and imagination. Thankfully, the antidote to the invisible insanity is right inside of you. Most people with CPTSD/R have these strengths in spades. Now, you are retraining yourself to use these strengths for your own benefit, for your own power (yes I did just say that), … More Healthy parent healthy child archetype (curing CPTSD CPTSR)

A drunk gazelle is like a bald tire (emotional abuse, emotional flashbacks, cptsd, cptsr, 5 finger mnemonic)

Having emotional flashbacks isn’t necessarily a negative or bad experience. Daydreaming, creativity, relaxed contentment can feel like a day on the beach whilst being surrounded by cray-cray people. Opium, LSD and alcohol can also be pleasant. But they’re not good for driving. Or for gazelles living in the grasslands of Africa. Relaxed alertness is gold. … More A drunk gazelle is like a bald tire (emotional abuse, emotional flashbacks, cptsd, cptsr, 5 finger mnemonic)

Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

On one of the narcissistic abuse (n/a) channels, a speaker (not Simon) talked about a concern that n/a is leaving the realms of the professionals and has become a mainstream-healing topic which is frequently not getting the depth of psychological attention it deserves. He asked for comments and I would like to share my reply … More Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

How to strengthen yourself to say NO to emotional abuse – #1 key phrase to negotiate with yourself or your client (Chris Voss) (CPTSD CPTSR emotional flashbacks) (double bind) (coaching)

Chris Voss, expert hostage negotiator, and author of Never Split the Difference, says: “That’s right” is what we say “when we feel completely heard, and there’s a chemical change that takes place in our brain — it is a subtle epiphany. And when you feel an epiphany, you feel better, you just don’t know where … More How to strengthen yourself to say NO to emotional abuse – #1 key phrase to negotiate with yourself or your client (Chris Voss) (CPTSD CPTSR emotional flashbacks) (double bind) (coaching)

Riffing on joy, inspired action, the n word and death

Hey all! Here’s a riff for you… may it bring you greater joy, ease, healing and strength. If there are pieces that stand out to you or you would like to further engage the conversation, just comment below. Much love, Happy D! Want more depth of study, practice and JOY? 12 Practices (for those who … More Riffing on joy, inspired action, the n word and death

The main danger of invisible abuse (cptsd or cptsr)

The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep. Henry Maudsley Let’s take a quick look what it means to be human (vs. a machine.) Humans are fully human when they experience and express: empathy, reason and CHOICE. To experience joy, humans must be fully human. Humans are designed to weep … More The main danger of invisible abuse (cptsd or cptsr)

PTSD CPTSD CPTSR Breaking down the complexity of post traumatic stress labels – a quick video message

What’s in a label? Possible solutions. Cheers to your freedom! Way. Here’s the longer and more thorough blog post defining CPTSD. Much love, Happy D! ps. If you would like additional support in the form of a personal “workout”, I created 12 Practices just for you. It’s an e-book with a journal and supplementary videos. You got … More PTSD CPTSD CPTSR Breaking down the complexity of post traumatic stress labels – a quick video message

3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)

You deserve to swim fast, fly free, run like Secretariat and enjoy your treasure every single day of your life! So many metaphors, so little time!  PENGUINS AND SEAGULLS When I first started the Joy-Based Living conversation and community, I saw us cleaning ourselves and each other of cultural wounds (shame, abandonment, betrayal) the way … More 3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)

What is Complex PTSD? CPTSD definition (healing from emotional abuse or toxic shame) (reference for therapists, coaches and clients) (CPTS-R)

Now that I’m moving the CPTSD conversation from “an aside” to a main topic in this here blog, I figured it’s time for a good ole definition.  Or Three. But first, a metaphor Race horses wear cheek pieces called blinders or blinkers that keep their vision focused forward and protect their eyes from dirt and mud. This is a … More What is Complex PTSD? CPTSD definition (healing from emotional abuse or toxic shame) (reference for therapists, coaches and clients) (CPTS-R)