Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

When someone you love is repeatedly hurtful, facing reality can be hard. For this reason, whether it’s your own bubble of denial or someone else’s, popping such bubbles isn’t usually fun and (more often than not) requires repetition. Resistance is often due to Stockholm Syndrome (also known as trauma bonding or toxic loyalty). But the … More Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)

The opposite of addiction is connection – tribal support, lizard lady, and why JBL

The intent of this article isn’t to define addiction, I’ll assume if you’re here reading this blog, you have a pretty good clue that pretty much all of us are addicted to something. Some see addiction as a disease or a disorder. Maybe that’s true, but I see it more as a “dee-fense” (like the … More The opposite of addiction is connection – tribal support, lizard lady, and why JBL

Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

And learn what you can do about it, O YEAH! I used to teach a 5-week course on manifestation called Creation Mastermind. “It works!” were the most repeated words from the majority of my students. I still get calls about teaching it again. YES. It DOES work. I may go back to teaching this course … More Are you sending out mixed vibrations? Learn how codependency kills manifestations.

From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

The magic of MILESTONES… YEAH. I posted this (below) for the inner circle of peeps at JBL (called Authentic Connections which you can see on our Treasure Map) because when I Kickstarted JBL in 2016, I NEVER in a million years intended or predicted that we’d be having a deep and ongoing transformative conversation about … More From Trauma to Thriving – Your Locus of Control – Focusing Forward

Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Starving to Give is an attempt at belonging that doesn’t lead to the satisfaction of true connection. Debbie Happy Cohen, Founder of Joy-Based Living programs and coaching community Quick definition of co-narcissist: A co-narcissist is the person who is (or was) targeted by a pathological narcissist, and now has a unique set of superpowers, wounds … More Starving to Give is the most damaging flaw of a co-narcissist (Cinderella Part Deux) (healing after narcissistic abuse)

Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)

Raised in a narcissistic household, I became very familiar with looks (and words) of disgust and contempt flung mercilessly at anyone and everyone. As a child, I couldn’t distinguish the fact that those messages were unwarranted and that they were not about me (or the others who received their blasts of contempt). And so, I … More Disgust, Contempt and Self-rejection OY VEY (Healing after narcissistic abuse)