How to heal inner blame. #trauma #CPTSD #codependency #teatime #PeteWalker

Blame is so uncool. So wrong. So bad. So unprofessional un-spiritual unhealthy undeserved. BUT – take care – unhealed blame can ferment into toxic shame. This post is an invitation to process the blame that lives in you (that you may even hide from yourself) so you can set yourself free from self-abandonment and emotional … More How to heal inner blame. #trauma #CPTSD #codependency #teatime #PeteWalker

Trauma – the Missing Peace (Tea Time, Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

Your degree of Joy-flow is directly correlated with your degree of Trauma-flow. Where grief is STUCK, Joy is lodged right behind. Joy is the very nature of your being, and like a volcano, it’s got energy and power behind it. So any lengthy stuck-ness is going to cause discomfort. It’s a signal for you to … More Trauma – the Missing Peace (Tea Time, Codependency, CPTSD, CPTSR)

Launching TEA TIME! Victimized to Victorious! (codependency, CPTSD/CPTSR)

This message was recorded in response to a beautiful and caring woman who left a very long term abusive relationship only to land in another one – and who, today, finally broke through her old rules – to shed tears for her own experience. Our Joy-Based Living E-book offers a foundation of lifelong practices that … More Launching TEA TIME! Victimized to Victorious! (codependency, CPTSD/CPTSR)

Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

A Course in Miracles says that our job is not to teach love (which is impossible) but to remove the blocks to our awareness of its constant, ever-radiant presence. I wonder, if maybe, that’s the task of our inner mother, our inner parent. To create a space, an environment, where love is free to BE. … More Mothers Day – Connection, Perfection and Freedom to Love

Jonathan Livingston Seagull vs CPTSD

Healing Complex PTSD is basically a gentle yet firm practice of removing the blinders that keep you in a state of “hypervigilant focus” for survival, which keeps one scanning their environment for what could or might go wrong. Healing CPTSD is the removal of a fear-based outlook so one can enjoy the beauty, wonder, magic … More Jonathan Livingston Seagull vs CPTSD

Connection (Part 2)

A few days ago I shared a post about Connection and it’s been very well received, especially by those in our JBL community, which signals me that the message is aligned with our core values (yay!). This brings me so much joy! Yesterday, probably drawing from that inspiration, this lovely poster came through. (click image … More Connection (Part 2)

Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Inner prisons are made of learned lock-downs to emotions that were once deemed unacceptable. As children, if we were punished or rejected (or if we witnessed others being punished or rejected) for expressing a particular emotion, we learned to shut-down those unacceptable things, and seal them tight. I find it easy to imagine an innocent … More Chocolate Walls – Reparenting with Warmth and Mercy

Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Envy is something that’s taken me a while to really understand, and yesterday I got such pristine clarity about it. The breakthrough is so freeing to me that I couldn’t wait to share it with you. Healthy person When a healthy person sees someone else doing or being something they want to do or be … More Envy, Indignation and Colon/Bladder Sensitivities (IBS and healing from narcissistic abuse)

Getting to know me, Debbie Happy Cohen

Recently, a few people have asked me to share more about myself; where I come from, who I am, what moves me and inspires me to do what I do. So… here you go. My name is Debbie Happy Cohen. My middle name is Happy, from birth. The name comes from my great grandmother. I’m … More Getting to know me, Debbie Happy Cohen

Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019

When rage has nowhere to go Because a bully has you hiding in fear Shame grows. When hidden rage is strong Shame deepens. Your light hides with it. Deeper. And then . . . Someone comes along and meets you At the depths Validates the hidden shameful experience And says, “Hello. You’re safe now. I … More Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019