Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse

Part 1 of this post is here. WANT TO END PROCRASTINATION FOREVER ??? Procrastination doesn’t feel hazardous, which is why so many people let themselves get away with it. It’s like a deadly non-scented toxic fume. If you’re procrastinating on the activities that would generate the most joy (for yourself and those you love)… you’re … More Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse

Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

After reading Christine Canonville’s book Shame Begets Shame, my eyes are now wide open to the harm of co-dependency literature for people who are healing from narcissistic abuse (which could have happened through parents, a sibling, or even bullying at school). The co-dependency literature isn’t just outdated, it’s misplaced and dangerous, like being given the … More Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.

Compassion. Love. Deep and true belief in someone. When your longstanding resilience becomes your achilles heel, when your altruism is unappreciated yet compulsively given, when you are chronically invalidated and devalued… How long does it take before you feel the pain? Better yet, how long does it take before you cut the ties? If you … More Rejection! The hardest part of leaving a narcissist you love – is probably not what you think it is.

Validating YOU – no longer willing to play the invisibility game – coming out now (healing from Narcissistic abuse Part V)

The “invisible” quality of narcissism is at the heart of its ability maintain its insidious and toxic abuse. Narcissists LOOVE being able to fool the rest of the world while harming their victims in secret. If you have suffered at the hands of people who YOU LOVE, I want you to know that you are … More Validating YOU – no longer willing to play the invisibility game – coming out now (healing from Narcissistic abuse Part V)

Authentic Presence: A cure for loneliness (Healing from narcissistic abuse Part IV)

Well I had no idea there would be such a strong response to my first blog posts on narcissistic abuse. In fact, on Thanksgiving evening, I received an email from a long lost relative letting me know that we had similar experiences growing up. There’s a scene in the movie V for Vendetta where this … More Authentic Presence: A cure for loneliness (Healing from narcissistic abuse Part IV)

A Woman’s Place

So I was on a call the other day with Catarina De Hoyos, one of my favorite Mary Kay consultants, and she was telling me that when she talks to women about joining the Mary Kay business, she has a special name for those appointments: Dream Sessions. She came up with this name this because … More A Woman’s Place

Horses and grasshoppers and thistles, O MY!

When I was a little girl, my auntie used to read coffee grounds at our family gatherings. After dinner, the adults would line up with their almost-empty Turkish coffee cups, which were carefully turned upside-down on the saucers, with the remaining clump of coffee grounds semi-dried (stuck to the bottom and sides of the cup). … More Horses and grasshoppers and thistles, O MY!

Don’t Hide Your Life – Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Part III

Hello friends, I knew there would be a Part III to complete this series, but it surprised me when it emerged as a video. So … here you go! The links to Part I and Part II are below. The world needs your magic! Big love, Debbie Part I of this blog post: https://joybasedliving.com/2018/10/23/at-the-heart-of-narcissistic-abuse-2-core-abusive-behaviors-why-they-do-it-and-3-tips-for-you/ Part … More Don’t Hide Your Life – Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Part III