Tag: joy

#1 way to know what a narcissist is thinking, feeling and planning

March 29, 2019

Knowledge is power. It was never your fault, dude. Or Dudette. Enjoy!

A manifesto for those who are done giving away their power

March 27, 2019

I couldn’t decide which title I liked better, I could argue strongly for both. So… here are both! You get to choose! Ah, feels so good fluffing that off of my back 🙂 Click to enlarge, print, post on your fridge.   Be blessed! Much love, Happy D! ps. If you want more, here are … More A manifesto for those who are done giving away their power

Toxic shame vs ordinary shame (quick and dirty definition)

March 24, 2019

A friend asked me to define toxic shame. I didn’t have to search far once I put Christine Canonville‘s name in the search. Here’s a meme just for you. Worth healing? I say, Hell yes! Onward, friends! Happy D!

Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God. – Madeleine L’Engle

March 17, 2019

I haven’t talked much about spirituality and God on this blog because I think the word “God” can really isolate and alienate people. Which is the opposite of connection, and therefore the opposite of JOY. There’s just too much baggage around “the word” God. Too many individuals and groups have used it to control, punish, torture … More Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God. – Madeleine L’Engle

Just coz I talk slow doesn’t mean I’m stupid

March 17, 2019

There is sacred, gorgeous healing power in slowing the f-down. Here is me, doing just that. XO Happy D! Want to set your joy free? Here are 3 options just for you: 12 Practices (for those who are ready to commit to self-care) These 12 Practices are a personal inner-strengthening “workout”: an e-book with a journal … More Just coz I talk slow doesn’t mean I’m stupid

Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

March 15, 2019

On one of the narcissistic abuse (n/a) channels, a speaker (not Simon) talked about a concern that n/a is leaving the realms of the professionals and has become a mainstream-healing topic which is frequently not getting the depth of psychological attention it deserves. He asked for comments and I would like to share my reply … More Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.

How to strengthen yourself to say NO to emotional abuse – #1 key phrase to negotiate with yourself or your client (Chris Voss) (CPTSD CPTSR emotional flashbacks) (double bind) (coaching)

March 15, 2019

Chris Voss, expert hostage negotiator, and author of Never Split the Difference, says: “That’s right” is what we say “when we feel completely heard, and there’s a chemical change that takes place in our brain — it is a subtle epiphany. And when you feel an epiphany, you feel better, you just don’t know where … More How to strengthen yourself to say NO to emotional abuse – #1 key phrase to negotiate with yourself or your client (Chris Voss) (CPTSD CPTSR emotional flashbacks) (double bind) (coaching)

Riffing on joy, inspired action, the n word and death

March 14, 2019

Hey all! Here’s a riff for you… may it bring you greater joy, ease, healing and strength. If there are pieces that stand out to you or you would like to further engage the conversation, just comment below. Much love, Happy D! Want more depth of study, practice and JOY? 12 Practices (for those who … More Riffing on joy, inspired action, the n word and death

The main danger of invisible abuse (cptsd or cptsr) – stuffing grief is a form of self-abuse

March 13, 2019

Update Jan 18, 2020: This blog post continues to receive a lot of views, so I have been on a search for you to refer you to someone who is licensed who can support you in healing CPTSR/ CPTSD – someone who knows their stuff, is friendly and professional, and is competent and caring. As … More The main danger of invisible abuse (cptsd or cptsr) – stuffing grief is a form of self-abuse

3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)

March 12, 2019

You deserve to swim fast, fly free, run like Secretariat and enjoy your treasure every single day of your life! So many metaphors, so little time!  PENGUINS AND SEAGULLS When I first started the Joy-Based Living conversation and community, I saw us cleaning ourselves and each other of cultural wounds (shame, abandonment, betrayal) the way … More 3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)