A friend asked me to define toxic shame. I didn’t have to search far once I put Christine Canonville‘s name in the search. Here’s a meme just for you. Worth healing? I say, Hell yes! Onward, friends! Happy D!
I highly recommend that if you choose to listen to this video, you create a space where you can truly be present. In your body. Not distracted. It’s not a light-listen. I attempted to condense very deep information while integrating some of my own story. You deserve to feel AMAZING. Your freedom. Your joy. Is … More Can co-dependency be cured? Here’s my experience of Richard Grannon’s stellar roadmap out of hell (CPTSD CPTSR).
Raise your standards, baby! Take the temperature and adjust as needed. You deserve to feel AMAZING!!! XOXO Happy D!
You know how sometimes you find yourself repeating the same darn pattern of “the same mistake” and you just can’t see what’s driving the whole thing? Repetition compulsion can be devastating. But also very funny! We repeat what we know. We repeat decisions that we made a long long time ago when our discernment abilities … More You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion
I haven’t talked much about spirituality and God on this blog because I think the word “God” can really isolate and alienate people. Which is the opposite of connection, and therefore the opposite of JOY. There’s just too much baggage around “the word” God. Too many individuals and groups have used it to control, punish, torture … More Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God. – Madeleine L’Engle
On one of the narcissistic abuse (n/a) channels, a speaker (not Simon) talked about a concern that n/a is leaving the realms of the professionals and has become a mainstream-healing topic which is frequently not getting the depth of psychological attention it deserves. He asked for comments and I would like to share my reply … More Wonder why people are shifting away from psychologists and therapists? This is why I did.
Chris Voss, expert hostage negotiator, and author of Never Split the Difference, says: “That’s right” is what we say “when we feel completely heard, and there’s a chemical change that takes place in our brain — it is a subtle epiphany. And when you feel an epiphany, you feel better, you just don’t know where … More How to strengthen yourself to say NO to emotional abuse – #1 key phrase to negotiate with yourself or your client (Chris Voss) (CPTSD CPTSR emotional flashbacks) (double bind) (coaching)
You deserve to swim fast, fly free, run like Secretariat and enjoy your treasure every single day of your life! So many metaphors, so little time! PENGUINS AND SEAGULLS When I first started the Joy-Based Living conversation and community, I saw us cleaning ourselves and each other of cultural wounds (shame, abandonment, betrayal) the way … More 3 metaphors for healing cultural and personal trauma (CPTSD) (CPTSR)
Embodiment Meditations can benefit anyone who wants to be more present in their day to start a meeting to begin a conscious conversation I’ve been starting coaching conversations with Embodiment Meditations in order to focus our energies to be more present and more aligned as we work toward – and co-author – a person’s future. … More Embodiment Meditation (reclaiming YOU after a mind-f### relationship) (CPTSD)
When someone you love is repeatedly hurtful, facing reality can be hard. For this reason, whether it’s your own bubble of denial or someone else’s, popping such bubbles isn’t usually fun and (more often than not) requires repetition. Resistance is often due to Stockholm Syndrome (also known as trauma bonding or toxic loyalty). But the … More Popping bubbles of denial – how many need to burst before you can face reality? (cptsd, healing from emotional abuse)
