Elizabeth Gilbert on Mario Martinez: BEWARE OF TRIBAL SHAME!

I read this about 5 years ago and found it to be so helpful that I read it every few months and send it to all my clients. Liz is the author of Eat Pray Love and other great books. She had just learned about Mario Martinez’ work around the same time I did. Elizabeth … More Elizabeth Gilbert on Mario Martinez: BEWARE OF TRIBAL SHAME!

Leap from Trauma to Peak Performance. How my friend’s vertigo disappeared. Resilience vs Relentless.

My greatest passion and desire is to see more kind-hearted, good-natured people get stronger and louder and take up more space in the world. Usually, this “type of person” tends to be on the quieter side. Sometimes this is due to their true nature. But more of the time, I think the hold-back has to … More Leap from Trauma to Peak Performance. How my friend’s vertigo disappeared. Resilience vs Relentless.

How to heal inner blame. #trauma #CPTSD #codependency #teatime #PeteWalker

Blame is so uncool. So wrong. So bad. So unprofessional un-spiritual unhealthy undeserved. BUT – take care – unhealed blame can ferment into toxic shame. This post is an invitation to process the blame that lives in you (that you may even hide from yourself) so you can set yourself free from self-abandonment and emotional … More How to heal inner blame. #trauma #CPTSD #codependency #teatime #PeteWalker

You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion

You know how sometimes you find yourself repeating the same darn pattern of “the same mistake” and you just can’t see what’s driving the whole thing? Repetition compulsion can be devastating. But also very funny! We repeat what we know. We repeat decisions that we made a long long time ago when our discernment abilities … More You are not alone – funny story – keep your dreams alive – transform with compassion

3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Dear Russell, I really appreciate the conversation you have taken on, helping people walk through the muck of shame, using the 12 steps with modern lingo and soundbites that people can chew on. Truly, with deep sincerity, I appreciate your work. In today’s video you are speaking to one side of the equation of shame. … More 3 Strategies to Banish False Shame – Letter to Russell Brand speaking on Shame (healing narcissistic abuse)

Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019

When rage has nowhere to go Because a bully has you hiding in fear Shame grows. When hidden rage is strong Shame deepens. Your light hides with it. Deeper. And then . . . Someone comes along and meets you At the depths Validates the hidden shameful experience And says, “Hello. You’re safe now. I … More Validation, Depths of Healing, Freedom Within, 2019

Where do all the feelings go? (Part I)

That depends. On whether they are honored or shamed. Whether they are treated with loyalty or betrayal. Whether they are welcomed with your presence or rejected through your absence. Tune in. Today. Right now. This moment. You Know Where They Go. Shhh… listen within… I’ll say more in a future blog post. For now, take … More Where do all the feelings go? (Part I)

Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse

Part 1 of this post is here. WANT TO END PROCRASTINATION FOREVER ??? Procrastination doesn’t feel hazardous, which is why so many people let themselves get away with it. It’s like a deadly non-scented toxic fume. If you’re procrastinating on the activities that would generate the most joy (for yourself and those you love)… you’re … More Toxic Fumes (part 2 of 2) – You are the Treasure – Ending Procrastination – Healing Narcissistic Abuse

Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

After reading Christine Canonville’s book Shame Begets Shame, my eyes are now wide open to the harm of co-dependency literature for people who are healing from narcissistic abuse (which could have happened through parents, a sibling, or even bullying at school). The co-dependency literature isn’t just outdated, it’s misplaced and dangerous, like being given the … More Toxic Fumes (part 1 of 2) Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – core shame, co-dependence, co-narcissist

2 key resources for successfully healing from narcissistic abuse (present or past)

Healing from  narcissistic abuse can be like walking through a rocky terrain in a dense fog. You may have a sense about where you’re going but it’s slow-going and it’s so darn easy to make mistakes along the way. Finding a sherpa is tricky because this is a leading-edge topic and most therapists don’t have … More 2 key resources for successfully healing from narcissistic abuse (present or past)